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People Who Don't Wear Deodorant or Seemingly Bathe Regularly, Why? (lemmy.world)

submitted 11 months ago by Zahille7@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Like, I travel around for work and I've met plenty of people from all backgrounds.

Why is there a demographic of people who don't seemingly bathe regularly, or at the very least wear something to cover up their BO? I could understand if it's an allergy, or even religious reasons (though the people I've met that smell bad are usually you're average American young adult man) but recently (like in the past week, recently) I've met a concerning number of people who don't seem to wear any kind of deodorant or possibly don't even bathe regularly; it's starting to become an issue for me, as I don't even want to interact with them when I can smell them walking up from 3+ feet away yet I need to for work.

Does anyone have any possible insight?

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[–] Melody@lemmy.one 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

Personally; I manage my BO. If I can lift my shirt up, pull my head inside the shirt, and smell my own armpit odor, then I'm in need of some DO.

I've been using a Dove branded Spray-On (AP/)DO for Women and it's effective. By combining the acts of applying DO, then, changing clothes; I don't particularly sweat over much.

I Do Shower on an As-Needed Basis. That's saying that I do shower, without committing to any specific showering pattern or timing basis. If you try to imply I don't shower regularly you will look foolish.

If I stink, then it's either uncommonly hot and humid or I have not yet had the opportunity needed to shower. The hows and whys of this are not important; but generally if I choose not to shower, it's probably for a good reason.

I do suffer from some allergies and disabilities. I won't comment on what they are specifically, but they do exist, so I keep my fragrances light and unobtrusive; and I try to shower only when I can manage to handle doing so. I'm not going to uproot or upset my health, focus, peace or routine just to take a shower to please someone arbitrary; but I do allow the people whom I live with and love to remind me gently should I forget about addressing my BO in the chaos of life.

This isn't saying that I don't care. It's saying I'm imperfect, I have a life, and I do get overloaded sometimes.

[–] Birdie@thelemmy.club 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

My momma used to say that if you can smell yourself, other people have been smelling you for days.

Don't know what your issues are, but I have aquagenic urticaria. There are waterless, alcohol based 'soaps' that I rely on heavily.