I'm not a fan of this mentality, crying isn't feminine it's what you do or should to when you feel bad and need to let it out. The idea that it's a feminine or unmanly thing to do is really toxic because crying is something we should all do when we need to, otherwise we bottle up the negative emotions which isn't healthy and doesn't feel good.

[–] Kornblumenratte@feddit.de 7 points 9 months ago (1 children)

As I understood @TotallyNotJessica, they did not mean having a mental breakdown is a feminine thing, but wearing a skirt.

Having a mental breakdown the feminine way = having a mental breakdown while wearing a skirt, as OP proposed.

I'm still a tiny little bit offended by the idea that skirts are an exclusive feminine thing. There are male skirts.

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 9 months ago

Oh, that makes more sense, also I do agree that it is also annoying that skirts are considered exclusively feminine.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I'm not saying sadness and crying are feminine or that anger and stoicism is masculine. I'm talking about crying in pretty dresses or using your nails and high heels as weapons when you angrily attack. Pink straightjackets and padded cells. Be sad in a crop top and skirt. Pretend misogynistic remarks and actions don't bother you. Smile through your frustration when men assume you're incompetent. Act like a happy trad wife despite your husband abusing you. Smile through the pain if you're feminine and keep a poker face if you're masculine.

Not letting people know that you're an emotional being by bottling up your feelings is less gendered than one might think.