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Meh, I've had some good experiences using dating apps but only after grinding for months and wading through mountains of OF spam and unresponsive matches.
It sounds odd to say it, but before apps, when they were websites, these services were a lot more unique.
As apps, since match group owns them all, they all eventually degrade into Tindr but worse somehow.
The swiping for hot or not fundamentally is superficial and suited to hooking up. So why is it added to dozens of services claiming to make deeper connections?
The way I view it (despite personally exclusively using apps for hooking up) is that the swipe is the first filter, the bare minimum. Yes, it's superficial, but people are at least in part superficial. If you're not physically attracted to the person, it's not likely to work out.
You swipe hot on all the people who meet the threshold of being attractive to you, then you go through your matches' profiles to find out who is likely to have a compatible personality, then you chat and go out to find out who actually had a compatible personality. The superficial swiping is only the first step.
People who get deep connections, engaged, married, etc, stop using dating apps.
Short term dysfunctional hookups are more profitable for these companies.
The CEO of grindr once admitted he opposed gay marriage.
I agree. Tinder (and it's predecessor Grindr) were clearly all about "hooking up" with attractive people. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. But if you're using this service hoping for more, you're going to have a bad time.
Similar to how Snapchat was clearly designed to send nudes but evolved into something else entirely.
I miss the glory days of okcupid and pof