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Hey everyone! I hope your day is going well!

Apologies for a little vague title, its just that I have graduated from college now in Computer Science. It's just the thing I am a little worried is about my social life and my weight. Like since I graduated like a month ago, my job is gonna start next month so between the free time I spend literally indoors all the day and night playing CK3, reading, learning some stuff I thought I might need them when I'll start working. I just have feelings to talk about and try to see what can I do for myself.

Like I know I'll need to get my car now that I finally got my driver's license once I get a month's pay. I feel like I am just not interesting person and can't socialize even though I do text and call some people like I feel like there is something missing. I never had a girlfriend, missed out on that experience and everything. I think that is something I feel like that's missing cause even if I have a great time with my friends and everything, its just I want someone to be there for me at night as well like close to me. It seems unrealistic and progressively starting to feel hopeless that I won't find love.

I do engage in my hobbies and just started to learn my guitar. I do need to hit the gym, its just transportation is a big hassle so I thought maybe I'd just wait till I get my car so I can hit the gym.

Sorry if I said was unclear and being all over the place. I hope everyone has a nice day!

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[–] iamhazel@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

If you are feeling hopeless that you will never find love, you're setting yourself for a rough time when a relationship ends, and an unhealthy one before it does.

There's no magical transformation after your first relationship, except maybe in that the experience provides a new perspective from which you can reevaluate yourself and your understanding of life and love. Which is to say, after the first rush, you will not feel better in a relationship than you do now, all else equal.

In my experience at least :)