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My high school sex ed never taught anything gay or anal. So I knew to wear a condom with my first girlfriend, but until I was a freshman in college (a year ago..) I didn't realize it's important to wear one with a guy too. First gay experience, we'd been seeing each other for a month and I thought I was pretty ready, sock on the dorm door and everything, but then bro asked me if I had a condom and I was like "huh?" And obviously I didn't so he just gave me head instead
For whatever reason I thought condoms only helped in vaginal sex, since that's the only thing they taught its use for. Didn't really know how gay and bi men prevent STIs other than monogamy and a few other assumptions. Part of that stupidity was probably just me being optimistic and horny brained about not having to wear anything
Why do you need to know about safe gay sex when you're just going to die and go to hell anyway? /S
I'm sorry you weren't taught better but glad you didn't have to learnt the hard way.
I did have to learn the hard way. There’s me, tied up, horny, ready to finally find out what it’s like to get fucked, and this guy puts on a condom.
Far too much friction. Ridiculously painful. And it wasn’t from the pressure; it was from the friction.
I don’t know if the lube that wasn’t working or what. This guy did have a dom style that was 100% based on pain though. Like he was just a straight up sadist more than he was a power tripper.