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tweet by Johann Hari: The core of addiction is not wanting to be present in life, because pour life is too painful a place to be. This is why imposing more pain or punishment on a person with an addiction problem actually makes their addiction worse.
This is anecdotal, but I think it's a good qualitative example. When I was marginally employed I was routinely drinking, smoking, and getting high. Well as routinely as I could afford. Even when I was homeless, first thing I did when I scored $40 for a day's work was go and buy a tallboy and a pack of cigarettes.
Fast forward, and now I have a fancy WFH job with good bennies and a future, and I no longer drink, smoke, or do drugs. Part of that is age, but it's not like I didn't want to quit those things. It's just that it got easier when life got more relaxing, and I could just chill out rather than try to escape.
But it would be cooler if you did
Hahaha undeniably. But I'm more about the cozycore vibe these days.
Oh gross I just looked up what cozycore is, and that is not my vibe. My vibe is more, like, actually cozy
I got banned from /r/cozyplaces, because I pointed out that every picture posted was of some room with a tall ceiling, tons of huge windows, cold light throughout, a concrete floor, and some sparse plant, and that it seemed like the point of the sub was to gaslight people about the meaning of the word “cozy”.