It's a bit different when the person you broke up with got addicted to crack, went on a bender, is living on the streets, whoring themselves out to whoever to get their next hit and doesn't want to change even after you tell them that they really, really need help ... yet you still look at them and think, it's ok, she'll change? right? she used to be very hot, super sexy, great sex ... all the time! ... and she still likes you and she still looks kind of good ... maybe if I just talk to her or help with getting crack, she'll change and be ok again. right?