1 in 600 men have kleinfelter syndrome (XXY) most have no idea they have it, I found out at 39. I've had lots of thoughts like this throughout my life, or I'll see an absolutely stunning woman and the first thought I'll have is 'wtf is she wearing'. I always thought I was just weird.

Coming to terms with the fact that I'm intersex has been interesting. At one point I would've described myself as a 'cis male', now alot of the feelings I've repressed for years are starting to make themselves known. Now I don't know what I am

[–] Blyfh@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh, that's interesting! So just having a second X chromosome fundamentally changes how the brain works and thinks?

[–] PolarisFx@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I think the general lack of testosterone is what makes the biggest difference. That being said, my brain functions very differently from that of my other male friends. I can remember well my teenage years and being exasperated at their behaviour, when my friends partied and drank I'd be there making sure they were eating and cleaning up after them so their parents wouldn't come home to a mess. I just thought I was strange, girls weren't a priority for me. They killed themselves to get any girl to look at them and married the wrong type of women. Now they're either divorced or miserable in marriages that being held together by children.

My relationships have been wholly emotional, many a relationship ended because of a lack of sex. My current partner prefers toys so it's worked out well, even though I'm on testosterone now and I have a libido for the first time in my life I still don't function like a normal guy... It just sucks

[–] Blyfh@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I can relate to feeling like the only one accepting responsibility. I'm making sure that we have everything planned, preparing stuff or cleaning up. But while I certainly don't kill myself to get any girl to look at me, I am interested in them. Plus, I have a libido. So I don't think I have Kleinfelter Syndrome.

I'm sorry for you as it obviously bothers you much.