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LPT: Don’t turn your dates into interview (infosec.pub)
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Asking open-ended questions—who, what, when, where—can be an effective social tool, but it’s often overused.

Asking too many questions in succession turns the date into an interview, and this often makes people uneasy.

Always be sure you add your own experiences, thoughts, and opinions into the conversation and show who you are.

When someone is giving an answer, be certain to BE PRESENT, rather than plotting in your head on how to keep the conversation going.

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[–] rozwud@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

As cliche as it sounds, just be yourself. Have a conversation like you would with anyone you're not on a date with. If it flows organically, it's a good fit for continued dates. If it feels uncomfortable, it's not.