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What advice would you give a young adult about to move out? (midwest.social)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by clark@midwest.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I am asking this question because the young adult in question, is me. I am to move out in a few years, and it feels impossible to move far away from my hometown (which I want). I have no idea how to juggle both finances, a job, and the move itself. With the global inflation going on, it feels impossible getting hold of a decent apartment to rent.

What advice would you give someone like me? What should I keep in mind and prepare* myself for? What are your experiences moving out, or moving away from your hometown? How long did the process take for you, and how did you manage keeping a job that paid all your taxes and rent? If you could look back and give younger you some advice, what would you tell them?

(If it provides any context, I am North European.)

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[–] bubbalu@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago

I started over again out about a year ago, and my best decision was to buy an alright futon and save up/look around for a decent quality bed. The futon was enough that I wasn't miserable but not so good that I could be complacent like I would with the first mattress I could afford/find. Since I was not desperate, I could wait till a good deal showed up.

Also, you are going to establish 'home' in phases or waves. It will be really exciting at first, but your energy will probably peter out sometime after you have a basic kitchen set up, sleeping area, and maybe sitting area. That's natural and nothing to feel bad about! I wound up being in a ~10 month break after my initial blitz before I started to turn my apartment into a home; it took me that long to recharge.