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Man, I'm really upset about my partner. We finally have organised DND with our group (of course we organised it a few weeks ago it's just terrible timing right now), and my partner is the DM so they have to bring a big bag with them because of it. And so last night I asked them if they could come here on Friday after work, but they wanted me to come over there. I'm not particularly in the mood to do the emotional labour of going over their house (they don't live super far from me like I used to, but they also don't live like next door), but they want me to come over and assumed I would because they don't want to lug around their bag.
And it's just, like, upsetting and annoying. Whenever something happens to them that upsets them, I'm always making sure they're okay and I'll organise to come over. And I'm not trying to wave around my problem at the moment as a guilt tripping thing (or at least, trying not to. It's hard not to seem like an arsehole). I don't know... maybe I'm in the wrong, but I don't feel like I am. Obviously y'all are only getting one side to this. But I just would've thought that they would come over and make sure I'm okay regardless, instead of having me go to their place.
Edit: They messaged me apologising and I've apologised too. So it's all good in the end. But just, yeah.
Communication and understanding can be difficult in a relationship, especially when there is distance involved.
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It's tough. It really is. I understand where they were coming from, because they didn't want me to be at my house where everything will remind me of her. But I'm going to have to experience being at home w/o her anyway, and I'm still going out for dnd. But like I understand. It just hurts that I wasn't... iunno, validated in wanting to stay home. You know?
Life sucks, relationships are tough, but are worth it in the end. Thank you!