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What is the most "Thankless" job? (lemmy.ml)
submitted 1 year ago by vis4valentine@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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If someone comments saying their actual current job, please be kind and thank them in a reply.

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[โ€“] DeltaTangoLima@reddrefuge.com 22 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

Step parent. While not entirely thankless (depending on the kids involved) it's tremendously underappreciated.

So much expectation that you do things for kids that aren't yours.

Don't get me wrong - it can still be rewarding in many ways, and my stepkids and I love each other like blood. We have a fantastic relationship.

But it gets under my skin every time I think about how little their own father has done for them, and I've had to pick up the (financial) burden, yet that prick will be the one who gets to walk my stepdaughter down the aisle.

[โ€“] vis4valentine@lemmy.ml 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That depends in her because it would be HER wedding.

If she is grateful enough, you'll get to walk her because you would have been her real dad all her life.

There is no written law that the bio that most be the only one who can walk her, its all just stupid wedding traditions.

If she grows to be a brat, and makes her bio dad walk her, then she doesn't see you as her real dad, and would be something for you to reflect on.

[โ€“] DeltaTangoLima@reddrefuge.com 12 points 1 year ago

I hear you, but it's not quite as straightforward as that. It's hard to explain (as family dynamics always are).