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Many people do not have a problem with nudity and seeing the opposite sex's gentiles, or having the opposite sex see their gentiles. However there is a large group of people worldwide that do. This later group is large enough that the first should respect them and accept gender segregated bathrooms, as such there is no need for them in restrooms for males.
Now you can argue that all restrooms should be single stall, unisex - and those should all have tampons. However where that is not the case you are being insensitive to the values of someone else.
I dunno what you’re doing in the bathroom but I’m certainly not looking at other people’s genitals. I don’t really see a problem with a bathroom for all genders. There’s nothing stopping creeps from going into the opposite gender’s bathroom with ill intent in current state other than a sign on the door
We have a difference of values here. You should be asking a different question, how much do you adjust to someone with different values. You do not have a problem with single gender bathrooms, but some do. Leave it there and quit asking why, there is no answer you will accept anyway, and no particular reason to conclude your values are better.
No. Asking 'why' is a fundamental part of the process. If there is a genuine reason behind it, fair enough. If it's a thinly veiled attempt at racism/sexism/etc, do you really want to treat that with any legitimacy?
Hold on while I hoist this giant mirror up, maybe you can read your own words back to yourself that way
I ask that of myself constantly.
oh good, for a minute I thought you were saying you were against neutral bathrooms, because "values" are frequently hidden behind to justify being against progress
What bathroom should someone born with both parts use?
How many genitals you seeing in the public bathrooms dude? Why are you looking at them all? Peeking over stalls now?
I'm not looking intentionally, but I've been in several where the angles of how i'm turning corners (and missing doors or dividers) mean sometimes you cannot help but seeing someone else's genitals. If you know that setup you can avoid it, but that is a conscious effort that is easy to forget to do since most are not setup that way.
I have literally never seen anyone else's genitals in the toilets. It's not just easy to avoid, it's difficult to make happen. Either you're in the worst designed toilet ever, or you're actively trying to look at people's junk. Eyes forward, soldier.