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When people message with a "hi" or "hello" and then say nothing more till I reply.
It annoys the hell out of me. Like, why can't you just say what you want. It wastes so much of my time and mental energy to switch back and forth while I wait for your reply after replying to your utterly useless hello.
just answer them with https://nohello.net/en/
Especially infuriating when the other person is in a very different time zone. I once worked on a project with a partner company in a time zone 10 hours ahead of mine and it was common for trivial things to take days purely because the other person insisted on typing "Hi," waiting for my "Hi, what's up?" response (which they didn't see until the next day since our hours didn't overlap), and then replying with their question, which I didn't see until my next day. Answering the actual question often took like 30 seconds, but in the meantime two or three days had gone by.
I came to believe they were doing it on purpose so they could constantly slack off and tell their boss they were blocked waiting for my answer.
What's worse, after you "hi" them back, some people (looking at you project managers) just ducking call without any explanation. Drives me nuts
Reject call.
'why didn't you answer'
'I'm not available for calls right now'
'why'
'that's not your business'
I've wandered down this road a few times now.
Got reported to my manager for doing just that. My rule was simple: if you're not my boss, I need to know what the call is about in advanced.
I just explain the same as above.
If you're not paying me for my time, you're not entitled to it, nor an explanation of what I do in my own time.
If we're talking about time on the clock, that's a different story.
Or I think worse yet, I ask a question, and they donβt reply for a while so then when they do respond all they say is βhi.β
It infuriates me, I donβt need to be at my desk for you to answer the question I left you above! Ughhh
I just wait until they say more things. Hello is nothing.
I have tried this. I'm often reminded the next day that they still haven't received a reply from me.
I love that part.
I occasionally give people shit for this. Chat is asynchronous and I'm busy just ask me the question and I'll respond back when I can. Some people just won't learn though and I usually just leave them on read.
βHi, we need to talkβ¦β