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“My Brother Is So Far Gone”: How Male Influencers Turned The Men In These People’s Lives Toxic
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you are argueing against a strawman. Ibam not aware that anyone is demanding men to break down and cry on a shoulder when they fail to do something. Noone is forbidding men from being strong, be it emotionally or physically.
But when you talk about being agressive and "smashinf cunts" that of course means lashing out and attacking people for no proper reason.
yeah but noone is seriously claiming that rugby needs to stop. So hes argueing against complete strawmen
Yes they are though. People say if men keep their emotions bottled up and don't cry or talk about their emotions it's a bad thing. The fact that men express their worries, emotion and support in a different way is the issue because so many people do not like it and try stop it.
I have no idea how you got to attacking people when I was clearly talking about team sport. Obviously punching unsuspecting people is bad but that is horrifically different to what I was saying. Killing people is also bad, but equally that isn't what I said.
People have told me I shouldn't act the way that emotionally supports me. People have told me contact sports should be banned, boys shouldn't rough house, calling your friend a cunt is not acceptable in anyway, being loud and singing in a way that does not disrupts others isn't okay, playing voluntary games like drinking or slapping each other is unacceptable. People have told me that team sport, and men only environment, is negative for society because I believe it allows men to act in a way that is natural to them, yet some people don't like it.
Boys and men should be supported in doing things that help them. Wether it's making friendship groups where you can call your friends cunts or where they will look out for you when needed.