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Why are people quick to ban or block because a comment makes them angry, rather than engage, debate or respectfully strongly disagree and leave the discussion at that?

Why can't people handle talking with someone who has a completely different view who can explain why they are against something that was said?

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[–] Xtallll@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There are a few reason for it. First if someone says "X people shouldn't exist" the conversation that follows isn't a debate, it's one person asking another to justify having human rights.

Another reason for an instant block is "just asking questions" then I can guarantee that anything that person says in the debate will be disengious and the whole time they will be moving the goalposts.

[–] Lengsel@lemmy.ca -4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes, some people move the goalposts when their statements get defeated, I am talking about, or asking, why do people need protection and silencing from some who makes a statement those goes against what they believe in?

There's no reason to react so strongly. Simply don't engage, ignore it, and continue on with life.

Beliefs and opinions have never hurt anyone, only action hurts someone. A person can only offend you if you allowthem and give them the power to offend. If you think someone's statement is repulsive and forget about what you read, they can't do anything to bother you.

In a true debate, I expect humility and dignity, and anything less than that is only them trying to win, it's not a conservational debate to challege each other so iron can sharpen iron.

[–] Xtallll@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

"Simply don’t engage, ignore it, and continue on with life." making that decision takes some small amount of time, energy, and attention, all of which, at least for me, are limited. If someone demonstrates they aren't worth my time to engage with, and engaging with them makes my day worse, it's logical to block them, it's only a benefit to me in the future.

[–] Lengsel@lemmy.ca -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

How do you handle it when you are out in public and someone insults you, do you fight them or do you go somewhere else?

[–] Xtallll@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

We were discussing "Why are people quick to ban or block" those terms only relate to online spaces. Please don't try to change the topic to real life interactions, I would hate to think you are being disingenuous in this debate, I know how much that offends you.

[–] Lengsel@lemmy.ca -3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It speaks to the broader context of personal character and how stunted someone is because they react emotionally, not able to control their words, have self control, and trying to win, not having dialogue.

For example, resorting to mocking, sarcasm, or insults proves an intellectual defect.

[–] Xtallll@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 year ago

And you are an example of people it's better to block them engage with.