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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] regalia@literature.cafe 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I'm so scared to be seen, that I can't even go for a walk. I also want to get skateboard, but I can't for the same reason. I'm terrified to be seen alone, or just seen in general.

Yet despite this, somehow I'm the opposite of that and manage a bunch of girls with compete confidence when I'm at work. I also have to deal with a ton of customers and don't even hesitate to say no or let them have negative judgement to me. I'm very socially competent and meet new people all the time without fear of rejection and opening up. I definitely stand out, in a good way.

Yet I'm scared of them simply watching me going for a walk outside??

[–] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 7 points 1 year ago

Interesting. I'm not scared of being seen but I like to not be seen. I spend a lot of time in nature and I always wear only earth tones. I like it when other people pass me up close but fail to notice me. I wonder if it has something to do with my voyeuristic tendencies. I love to just sit in a cafe to and watch people passing by.

[–] maniel@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'd seek help, don't want to tell people what's normal and what's not, but that's definitely a slight deviation from the norm and it's not helpful to you

[–] regalia@literature.cafe 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's what it's like to have GAD

[–] enthusiasticamoeba@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago

Or being traumatized from being autistic and getting side eyes, snickers, giggles, eye rolls, scoffs, and bullying whenever you committed some social faux pas.

[–] winter@slrpnk.net 2 points 1 year ago

I remember I couldn't even use earphones on the street or on school because I thought people were going to look at me more, even thought everybody uses them