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What does the fear of being judged by others hold you back from doing that you would otherwise do? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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To be fair I still do these things but only when I'm alone.

Personally I love finding big puddles and then dig drains with a stick or my heel and watch the water flow.

Also love to throw a piece of wood into water and then toss stones high up in the air and try hit it imagining it's a warship I'm trying to bomb.

Then also without going into details there are some pieces of clothing I would like to wear but don't because they're considered femine or gay.

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[–] stiephel@feddit.de 20 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Sounds like you're still a kid at heart. I've got a 2yr old and I immensely enjoy playing these sorts of games with him. My wife always jokes that I'm using the sandbox more than him, she even snapped a couple of pics of me playing alone in there.

What kind of clothes are you talking about? A skirt on a man is still pretty courageous, but if you're talking about a pink shirt just go for it. You'll not be judged.

[–] Thorny_Thicket@sopuli.xyz 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What kind of clothes are you talking about?

Overknee socks, crop tops, tiny shorts, speedos, yoga pants ...

I'm perfectly aware that it's not that others care that's holding me back but the fact that I care. Doesn't make it any easier though.

[–] ekky43@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Ayy, speedos gang! May others avert their eyes if they can't handle me and all my sexiness, and may the rest of you, girls or guys, enjoy the eye candy.

Regarding the original question, while I'm already running around in speedos, I absolutely wouldn't mind some more colorful clothes, or perhaps some final fantasy/guild wars inspired clothing. Like those outer coats that go all the way to your shoes, but with decorations and stuff. But I feel that the included judging is a commitment I'm not ready for yet.

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago

Overknee socks, crop tops, tiny shorts, speedos, yoga pants …

There's quite a few guys who dress like this where I live and I find they are often not single.