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This leads me to believe I'm either autistic or an asshole
The good news is that you can be both! It just comes down to intent.
It's actually somewhat hard to be both, but dude when it happens one thing really adds to the other so much!
Most of us are are constantly masking among neurotypical folks and one of the reasons we do it is to not be seen as an asshole. If you actually are an asshole then you can also be yourself much more easily, which in turn often make you be seen as an even bigger asshole by them.
If you are just trying to share knowledge then you aren't an asshole. Those same people will do the same endless rambling about pointless sports statistics and how they made 3 touchdowns in high school or whatever thing they find interesting.
https://youtu.be/xL-VX3WbA9U
I could throw a pig-skin a quarter-mile...
you might be being gaslit
Oh, I see you dealt with HR too
I used to call HR the KGB of my old job
At least half of those are part of daily autistic experience. Do you think we are constantly being gaslit?
You must accept both sides of your being, for to be an asshole to ignorance is one of the greatest joys an educated mind can experience.
See, look at that - @some_guy showed up to generate the second half of the equation. He hasn't yet shown the capacity to form complete sentences, but he loves to follow me around downvoting after I told him his battle is with the troll within. Each time I see his downvote, it makes my day a little brighter knowing that no matter how hard he tries, he can't answer the arguments I've posed him, but they're still in his head, driving him to hunt me across the Fediverse, downvoting without commentary because he truly has nothing to say.
Simple pleasures.
what's going on now?
Just a troll that's been following me about - he popped up six minutes after I posted. He seems not to understand that we can see downvotes over here on kbin. It was hilarious that he showed up to prove my point.
When you downvote Arotrios he sends you nice messages like this
https://imgur.com/a/Zz3rkok
And plays the victim
I reduced this post because it does not contribute to the discussion. If you believe you are being harassed, you should use the report button or block the user in question. You are probably just adding fuel to the fire by continuing to post paragraphs complaining about the user; if they are trolling you're giving them exactly what they want by letting them live rent-free in your head.
No worries - not a problem. I have performed all the steps you suggest, but the Fediverse tools are still a bit lacking for cross-instance harassment, and this particular chucklefuck has been sending IMs threatening doxxing (which come through despite blocks). Just pointed it out here as it proved my point and made me laugh.
Besides, I'm living rent free in his head now... ;)
Peace be with you.
Why not both?
Both are a spectrum that everyone is on, and pretty much no one is all the way at the "not at all" side of either lol
That's not how the autism spectrum works. For one what you're describing is a gradient not a spectrum and for two the autism spectrum is a spectrum of autism, not a spectrum of everything. To be on the spectrum you have to be autistic.
Autism or any behavioural disorder isn't a neatly packaged thing. We can't measure it or study it under a microscope. The typical autistic behaviour exists in everyone to a greater or lesser degree. It's hilarious to me how people worry about things like AI making decisions and we cannot determine the origin of the decision, as if a sophisticated neural network can be examined like clockwork. The human mind is nondeterministic and may always be.