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Deleted Reddit awhile ago and find I'm far less stressed and anxious.
Yeah, for me it was just on step too far. I was trying to ask questions on a board about a niche topic for my book and I was deleted. I messaged the mods and they told I was leeching off of them for free buzz and I wouldn't get approved. Meanwhile I posted on another board about the same topic and everyone was super friendly and was really excited a normie was asking questions. I realized that over my time on reddit, I've developed this massive anxiety about posting. Most of these subreddits I frequented have hundreds of rules, and dozens of sub rules under each.
So I'd inevitably get deleted and harassed by the mods because of things like, having the tags on the wrong side of the title, posting more than 3 times in a week, including the three dots thing (...) somewhere in my post, or my favorite, referring to the users as 'the hive mind'. That last one got me banned from several subs by this power mod. It's gotten to the point where I've spent all night trying to get approved to no avail (I'm very persistent when I need information). Just to when I finally arrange all of the words to be in the right order for the tyrants to approve me. Just to get downvoted into oblivion and people spamming me with all manners of insults and treating me like an idiot. Fuck spez and fuck reddit.
Phew! Sorry, didn't mean to dump that on you. Like I said, today was the last straw for me. Anxiety is dropping, finally.
Good for you - let it out. I didn't have anything specific happen to me. Over the last decade or so, I have become less enamored with social media. To a point where I one by one shed them all (or never signed up, as is the case with Twitter). Reddit was the last to go.
But yeah, I felt better after a week away. And even better after two weeks. I felt weird losing my "history" but looking back that was just my vanity. As if I contributed something of great meaning. Now that it's all gone I couldn't be happier.
Had a very similar experience. I've frequently found that kind of problem is a direct result of the community simply growing 'too large'. The only way to moderate is hit everyone even slightly suspected of being out of line with a brick.
Back in ye olden days of forums and boards, even flagrant transgression of rules were typically forgiven and you were dealt with like a human because moderators had time and care for the community and people.