As a non-native speaker I encounter this phrase from time to time (in podcasts and such) and I'd like to understand the use (beside the literal meaning which is obvious).

Why would you say that? or sometimes Why do you say that?

To me, that sounds almost rude, like rebuking the questioner. However, the context usually leads me to conclude that this sentence is to be understood neutrally, in the sense of "I am interested in the background of the question".

How should the sentence usually be used? Or does it depend solely on the tone the phrase is used?

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[–] Pyr_Pressure@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago

"Why would you say that?" To me feels much more rude than asking "Why do you say that?"

Asking "Why would you?" Gives the impression that you are questioning their intent, almost accusing them of something negatively.

Asking "Why do you?" Gives the impression that you are questioning their reasoning, like you are simply curious and looking to understand them better.