It occurred to me that, as an adult, I feel I need a reason to invite friends over. My wife thinks this is pitiful. I invited a couple of friends over for a curry and a boardgame night - it was a fine evening - but without that reason of having a shared activity, I'd never have done it.
Jusy wondered if I'm alone in this, and if there's any men out there who DO invite male friends over with no plans or expectations for the evening?
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I suppose it depends on your definitions of reason and plan. You don't need to have something very formal, but you need to be able to answer the question "what are we doing?". That way, they can decide if they want to be part of it. You also don't want obvious boredom, where everyone's sitting around with nothing to do.
Your "plan" can be as simple as inviting the guys over to hang out and drink beer. You let the night go wherever it does. If everyone wants to play a board game, or go to the bar, or get Taco Bell, or go to a strip club, just let it happen. And if everyone is happy hanging out and drinking beer, that's great too.
My friend: “So, what are we doing?”
Me: “Niksen”
Friend: “Count me in!”
Boredom is not in itself a bad thing. Stop being chronically amused.