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I agree with your points. Though for me a big difference has been friends I made before ~25 and friends after 25. There is no way I would want to live anywhere near friends I made before that age. Being in my early thirties, who knows how I'll feel 10 years down the line. Doing this communal living is a big commitment which might be hard to get out of.
Same! Pre / post uni friends is the rough line for me. I have one friend from school still, a few from uni but the rest is more recent than that.
Still, I'd argue (re the previous post but my reply fit better here) that even the "nostalgia friends" aren't any different from birth family.
Family just comes with more inherent guilt to uphold the nostalgia lol
I hear that. But my wife and I regularly debate about the role of family. I don't know if it's more American culture to view family as more "disposable", e.g. they can be cut-off if toxic, etc. Being originally an (eastern) European, my mentality is that family (or blood-bonds to be dramatic) are always more serious than friends. To that end, I always thought having a large villa with multiple wings for multi-generational housing would be more appealing. My mother and wife (stereotype much?) don't get along, so maybe a challenging proposition...
Idk im from central/western europe too. For me family is a difficult topic, since I'd like to cut some out but i dont have the heart to go through with it fully.
So low contact it is. Idk what the future holds, but i cant see myself caring for that part of the family personally. Sure, I'll arrange caretakers etc but I'm never gonna have that person live in my hypothetical mansion.