This one is on a subject I have little experience with as I don't have kids but you know im human and I live in society and I have been adjacent to these scenarios so I get it. I like that she mentions a movie the situation reminds her of in her comments on the site. Maybe I will throw that on today if I can find it free.
Parent here. School decided that all of December would be dress up days this year instead of just the week before they got out for break. I went all "bah humbug" and my kiddos did not participate - except for the school colors day because they already had shirts in those colors.
Kiddo doesn’t seem to give a shit about conforming, so I just completely stopped trying to track down and remember dress up days. If one of them has percolated into my brain some other way, I’ll offer her something on theme if it’s clean, but fuck putting effort into it.
The line must be drawn here! This far, and no further!
Mine is 7 now and he’ll pick his own clothes most days.
The irony is that pajama day should be easy, get out of bed and go to school. Except he rarely wears PJs to actual bed and strips down to undies. So he still had to pick out and outfit on PJ day. And it was cold, so he wore his sweater over it anyway.
Making the snack and lunch everyday is the hardest though, we spoiled him with too much variety early on and now it’s biting us on the ass.