I think boils down to "similar optics, different gender identity", but I'm neither of these flavors so I really don't know. But for this joke, I think either works.

Calling for assistance: we need a ruling here. Halp.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

i would say femboys are generally seen as not wanting to be female, just feminine. Same as how crossdressing doesn't make you trans, it just means you like crossdressing.

a term sometimes used synonymously with femboy is tomgirl, as a mirror to tomboy, and you wouldn't start calling tomboys trans men would you? They're people who identify as female but present less femininely.

[–] dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

Thank you for replying. This makes complete and total sense.