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But if you're constantly late it means that you don't care about wasting other people's time... Kinda assholeish
My partner used to be very frustrating like that. She'd rock up 30-60 minutes late to do something and then always have reasons or excuses why, some better than others. All it takes is for you have the common courtesy to tell me, rather than leave me to get increasingly irritated over the course of an hour when I can basically do nothing. Thankfully, things improved a lot after some particularly crummy instances.
You don't have to find apologies for everything. Blaming everything on "daemons" is just externalizing a problem so you don't have to deal with it.
It's rarely as bad as it feels in the moment. And even if it is, it can and will get better with time
If you haven't you should be seeking help. Professional help. It can get better.
That's a good idea. Running away from your own problems seems to work fine for you.
Bro you aren't my problem. If you're deciding to be ignorant I'm just going to call my boundaries. That's it.
No one is perfect, nor should try to be. Asking someone to have enough consideration for others to not show up late to everything isn't asking for perfection.
You're right. That applies to you as well. Everyone has to put effort into showing up and most people have obstacles to deal with.
Sorry but your struggles aren't more important than anyone else's. Not less, but also not more. You're not a martyr for showing up. If you struggle with physical or mental issues, I'm sorry, I hope you're getting help and have a good support system.