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Worst example is friend who, after being hospitalized for accident while car surfing, died car surfing again. I wasn't present for either event.
Second worst is dude with head injury (unrelated) started talking about crystals and toxins and juice fasting. Called him out one day, and it was catastrophic. This one is still alive, at least AFAIK.
Third, divorce. You will find out who your real friends are when you get divorced.
When my ex- and I were going through a divorce, they didn't want me to say anything publicly at all. They were insistent that it wasn't anyone else's business, and since I was trying to make the process as painless as possible, I assumed that this was a good-faith request.
I was wrong.
I was being silent, and they were telling everyone a load of horseshit about me, and bad-mouthing me in public to every single one of our mutual friends. I lost all but one of our mutual friends; my silence was assumed to be an admission of guilt.
I'm so sorry. I strongly suspect this happened to me as well. To this day I've never mentioned the evidence I had of her infidelity to anyone, because I'm a better person that she is. My former friends likely discovered this for themselves in due course.