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I'm from the Y'all zone. Is it offensive to call trans people y'all? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 20 hours ago by UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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If anyone can find more pixels for me i would appreciate it.

Thanks y'all.

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[–] SweetCitrusBuzz@beehaw.org 4 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

Okay, but not everybody is going to be comfortable with it and so are you saying you would not change your speech for them?

Also which country?

[–] verdigris@lemmy.ml 4 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

The US. And yes, I will continue to use the phrase "you guys" because it's a phrase that means "you people". I can't anticipate every illogical thing that will offend people. If someone called me out on it in person I would try not to use the phrase to address them specifically but I would also think they were being very silly.

[–] SweetCitrusBuzz@beehaw.org 3 points 12 hours ago

It always confuses me when people say 'offend' people, because usually it is not offense they feel etc.

Well, that's not a very fair way of treating/thinking of people, some people are going to be hurt or upset by certain things and it's better to understand that we all have emotions and they are not pointless just because you see no value in them i.e. 'illogical'. It's better to work together and find ways of communicating that aren't genuinely hurtful ioo.