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Friend I met up with today said she doesn't drive because her ex crashed into a tree after she broke up with him and thought it was her fault. But she has spoken to me about driving on the ring road with her dad and driving to her sport practice. It's just that she needs a ride whenever I go out with her. Another friend wants me to pick up her too good to go box which is a 10 minute drive away. I feel iffy about saying yes because she constantly asks me to check if things are in stock for her at my work and asked me to help jump-start her car because she had no one else. I don't mind doing a nice thing for a friend, but I just feel like these people are using me.
hmmm, that all sounds a bit like emotionally manipulative bullshit on their part.
Politely decline and see what happens.
She's manipulative just like her ex was. I will not be driving her anymore. The other friend is also a user.
Good for you! I've let people use me in the past and it wasted a lot of my time and energy for nothing.
Less than nothing actually. Because they actively made my life worse.
Gosh that's horrible. I guess if anything, it goes to show that you have a kind heart.
Nothing wrong with a kind heart just be careful. π
Absolutely
That's nice of you to say :) I've definitely learned to be more selective about who I let into my life.
No lesson is easy I guess.
I must be getting old but I just can't stand that bs anymore.
And you aren't even giving genuinely needed help, you're a convenience and that's different.
They can walk or get a bus or get uber. Asking for a lift , I can't even imagine it. Unless it's hospital and even then I would expect them to make an effort.
Exactly, I never ask anyone for a lift because I always feel so bad. But these people have absolutely no problem doing so. As a child, my mum was very paranoid about safety and was a SAHM so I had the privilege of being driven around, and expected that I was meant to do the same thing for others.
I know people aren't raised the same way, and not everyone has the same level of agreeableness. It still just baffles me.
Yeah, I learned never do for another person what they can do for themselves :(