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1: Walking home from work, timing it to go throughthe park at twilight, right on the edge of dark when your colour vision goes on the fritz and the chrominance is greater than the luminance. The grass bleeds colour but not light in a weird un-glow, and somehow it's always cool and extra quiet. Does a body good. You never get any time in the dark that isn't sleeping, you realise that? You never just experience the dark, it's lights full-blast until you turn your brain off, and then back to the glare when you get up again.
2: To that end: take a shower in the dark, preferably pitch dark if you can manage it. Work out in advance where the taps/soap/towel is, and just go through the whole process as you normally would. It's... weirdly sensual, and deeply, deeply relaxing.
3: Brown noise and rain nose together. simplynoise.com now wants to sell you shit, and hell with that - but head over to https://onlinetonegenerator.com/noise.html and select Brown noise. In another tab, head over to rainymood.com. You'll want decent headphones for this, earbuds won't do it justice.
4: Going to nude beaches. Not to gawk at people (seriously terrible venue for that in every respect), but to just wander around, bollocks waving in the breeze, and nobody even blinks. Someone else wanders past, tits akimbo, and you don't even blink. Nobody cares, we just aren't doing that right now, and when your brain realizes this, it's the equivalent of taking your boots off after a long day. No social mask, you aren't maintaining a posture wrt other people, there's no eyeline politics, you can just be, and oh my fucking god you didn't know you needed this. Also, swimming naked is like showering without socks on by comparison - and when was the last time you got direct sunlight on your balls?
You should try some dark ambient instead of noise. Some is more distracting than others but a lot of it is perfect for what you describe. Try Kammarheit.