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Those with parents who hold opposite political views than you, how do you go about disagreeing? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by minorsecond@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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To be more specific, my parents raised my siblings and me to "respect" them, saying "yes sir, and "no ma'am" to everything they said. Spankings, all of that. Typical super conservative evangelical parents. Before I learned better, I was that way too. I went to college and since then have embraced the left more and more.

They'll say things now and then that are really distasteful politically. Today I made an Instagram post about DeSantis lying about liberal states allowing post-birth abortions and I got several family members railing against me. I'm tired of staying quiet when this happens. I think that, because how my parents raised me, I'm afraid to speak my mind to older family members. Fuck that though.

Has anyone else had this experience? I wonder if therapy would help. I just don't know how to explain it.

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[–] somefool@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I don't. We don't talk. Relatives of mine, including one of my parents, sank into vaccine conspiracies, then followed that pipeline to Qanon, and then explained to me how they were waiting for Trump to lead his secret army to take down the government of my non-english-speaking, european country.

I gave them their keys back, I got my keys backs, I blocked them everywhere, I nuked my accounts on the social media they use (and where their posts steadily got worse). It's a hard decision, I still think about it often still (it's been nearly two years), but I will never talk to them again.

[–] HappyMeatbag@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

Granted, your parents are still alive, but I feel like the only appropriate response is to say that I’m sorry for your loss.

[–] minorsecond@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Ugh. My mother is a Qanon victim. She still spouts conspiracy theories to me half the time I talk to her.

[–] somefool@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

"Victim" is an interesting term, but quite accurate. There's such a an effort and investment into converting people to that cult. I wish you the best with your mother, hopefully the other half of your conversations is more pleasant and eventually overtakes the conspiracy theories.

[–] minorsecond@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Most conversations are great and make hearing the conspiracy theories worth it.

[–] somefool@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Then I am happy for you