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Ignore this if you're only looking for medication advice.
I simply stopped going against my ADHD. I stopped trying to achieve things that ADHD was preventing me from achieving. "Achievement/success" is completely overrated.
don't fight it, embrace it.
How did you achieve this? Did you change jobs or positions at your job? What do you do for a living?
I live in a country with social safety net. If I lose my job, I just live on that until I find a new one. I have a roof and warmth and food, that is enough for me.
Currently I work in a job with 20 hours a week, work from home, and flexible so I can work almost whenever I want. When I feel too bad about not having worked a while I start working, as is ADHD custom. I don't do a lot, I'm not recognized as a hard worker, I don't stand out, I just do enough.
That's exactly my aim now. I overworked myself in past. Employers out here are living in the past, demanding 40h weeks. This really broke me several times with burnout depression. Now, in the job interviews, I tell them all that I will not work more than 35h, better: 32.
Honestly, I would not be above complete and utter deception. Companies and many of the people working for them don't have your wellbeing at heart. In a job interview, I always present as the best and hardest, most passionate worker going above and beyond all the time. I do not feel bad about it at all. Then I just do as much as I can/want and see if they fire me. I simply do not care to be good and honest in a system that's the farthest away from goodness and honesty.
how has that gone in interviews? are people ok with that, do they ask why? curious. & ty
They usually show me the door out. But this is still better than doing all they would demand.
Used to work where they liked people at <32h bc it meant they didn’t have to cover health insurance
All the more confirmation that I need to leave America.
Interesting idea
There's some merit in that. But I wouldn't really recommend always allowing it. Modern life requires doing some things that ADHD tries to prevent (like finishing that super important project or whatever), but if we give in to it, we can feel some repercussion (like losing our jobs).
Yeah but that's exactly what I'm saying. If you live in a country with a good social safety net and are fine with living with little money, then losing your job because you didn't finish that big project is not a problem.
Maybe for some, sure. But I don't want to assume OP is one of those, and suggest this tactic. It might be a great way to deal with ADHD, I'm not arguing one way or the other, since it seems to work for you and that's absolutely amazing. However, it could land some people in a lot of hurt.