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How do you get over a crush? (lemmy.world)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by ComicalMayhem@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Say hypothetically I've already shot my shot and was shot down, how would I go about getting over this (without rebounding to other people or whatever)?

Edit: Thanks everyone, for all the comments, support, and advice! Majority rules a tie between time and distractions lol. Seriously though thanks y'all

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[–] OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Be proud you stepped up and took your shot and accept the reality that it did not work out. If your a male this is just a fact of life in general

??? This isn't a gender thing?

[–] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 4 points 3 months ago (3 children)

males of my age generally had to make the move. its possibly different now. I can count on one hand the girls I knew from college and before who asked a guy out first.

[–] Mubelotix@jlai.lu 1 points 3 months ago

Same in France among students. Males are expected to make the move

[–] n0m4n@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 months ago

My realization, now, was that they did. I was too clueless on picking up cues to realize it.

[–] OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I feel like even within the straight paradigm women do a lot to express interest and can still feel "shot down" when those signals aren't reciprocated, outside of also asking guys out

[–] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 1 points 3 months ago

oh yeah. Flirting is totally different. I would say growing up girls flirted more than guys.