I think most people simply don’t appreciate what having a child is and what a massive responsibility it is. Bringing another human being into this world is a gift, one that you should be expected to nurture and love no matter what.

The problem is that many believe that a child is simply an extension of oneself and can be manipulated and contorted into whatever the parent wants. A child is not you, a child is not a free workforce, or laborer. Too many people who do not truly understand what they are bringing into this world are parents and thats why theres so many flawed individuals.

I think most people shouldnt have children and especially right now with the way the worlds headed but to say having children is completely wrong is immensely stupid.

(in addition i myself am abstaining from having children because i dont want the responsibility and i find the lil shits annoying.)

[–] Prunebutt@slrpnk.net 14 points 4 months ago (4 children)

I think most people simply don’t appreciate what having a child is and what a massive responsibility it is.

I think you're talking out of your own ass, if you believe that most parents don't know all that.

[–] Junkhead@slrpnk.net 20 points 4 months ago (1 children)

mmmmm no id say youre talking out of your own ass.

Many parents when you truly get down to it seem to think the most important part of being a parent is spreading their genes and maintaining a bloodline.

I truly mean it when I say most parents dont realize how profound having a kid truly is. Otherwise i truly believe people take longer before having kid when it comes to finding another person to raise a kid with, considering what mental illnesses, or diseases that lurk in your dna.

I also think abortion wouldnt be that much of an issue if people consider when its truly the right time to raise a child.

So nah suck it brah.

[–] Prunebutt@slrpnk.net 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Many parents when you truly get down to it seem to think the most important part of being a parent is spreading their genes and maintaining a bloodline.

WTF are you talking about? I don't know a single parent that does that.

I'll have to play the "you're no parent, so you simply have no idea card" here, since it's obviously like that.

[–] vonxylofon@lemmy.world 11 points 4 months ago (1 children)

As a parent, I thought I had an idea. Nope, still surprised. And I wanted the kid and have means to support them.

[–] Prunebutt@slrpnk.net 6 points 4 months ago

Yeah, most parents-to-be don't, since it's simply inconceivable, really.

[–] Pissnpink 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

From my experience,I personally agree with that sentiment. A lot of parents and parents to be put a lot on their kids that doesn’t need to be there, many don’t understand how much work it will be, and a lot put in much less work than they should.

It sounds like you are or would be an engaged parent to know it’s a lot of work to raise a little individual, but there are many people from many backgrounds.

[–] Prunebutt@slrpnk.net 2 points 4 months ago

That's simply something, no parent would say, so yeah: talking out of their asses galore down here.

So how about we fix the society as to that not only übermenschen can get children and born children have the resource of an intact social safety-net? Maybe that would be preferable to childless asses shaming parents whose situations they have no access to?

Most of the time, it's a lack of resources that disables parents to properly care for their kids. Try to be a supportive parent if you work 3 jobs to make ends meet.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

You quoted the part where they said most people, but you're replying as if they said most parents.

Anyway, you'd hope people who don't know all that would learn better after the kid comes out, but I know some people don't. I can name two off the top of my head.

[–] Prunebutt@slrpnk.net 1 points 4 months ago

You quoted the part where they said most people, but you're replying as if they said most parents.

Hey, if they didn't mean most parents, then the first part of the sentence didn't apply.