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Found this blog post and found it had more insight into the issues around the dev and the toxicity in FOSS

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[–] luap@awful.systems 48 points 4 months ago (3 children)

This is such a weird thing for the dev to decide to die on. I understand, although i don't agree, with the "there are TWO genders" issue, and the desire for folks who are in that genre of people to avoid the whole thing, perhaps even forcefully. I don't understand why including women, one of the two genders they do approve of, is considered overly "political". How dare someone suggest girls might like tech? Ridiculous! I almost get the first instance, as a mistaken attempt to not support trans folks (which, again, is stupid anyway) but the constant rejection means they are CLEARLY just misogynists.

[–] skizzles@lemmy.ml 33 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (4 children)

To be fair, it's also kinda dumb to point out something as an issue when it clearly wasnt, and saying "assuming the user/developer if the OS is a male" means that the person complaining is assuming that this dev was assuming something because he used the word he.

The issue was that the person decided that it bothered them so much that they needed to ask the dev to change it.

This has idiots on both sides written all over. Why is that person being nitpicky over something so stupid. Women use she/her in their writing all the time, just like men use he/him, and people with other pronouns are more likely to use what is familiar to them such as they/them.

I say this as someone with a child that has been reading books to them and noticed that an authors gender and the pronouns they use seem to correlate more often than not. Unless the book focuses on topics of or relating to understanding and accepting the differences in people. Both people are dumb in this scenario.

Edit: let me put things into a perspective that maybe some of you can understand. Let's take anything related to gender or being PC out of the equation.

I ask you to make a change to your documentation because I don't like the way you said something, then accuse you of being or believing a certain kind of way because of the grammar you used.

That is what this person did.

Now let's assume (yeah I said it) for the sake of my argument that the person doesn't feel any kind of way about the thing that they were accused of being. I'm pretty sure that person might just take offence to that. Which in this case is exactly what happened.

Had there just been a change that said something along the lines of just a simple grammatical correction. It probably would have be pushed and ignored.

In this case the dev definitely seemed like an ass, but that's not the point. The point is the whole fucking situation is stupid.

[–] GammaGames@beehaw.org 58 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

They didn’t just ask the dev to change it, they submitted a pr that would’ve fixed it. All the maintainer had to do is click merge

The maintainer was the one that brought politics into it!

[–] skizzles@lemmy.ml 15 points 4 months ago (4 children)

I understand that, but the whole point behind it was them making an assumption about something and proposing a change because they didn't like their term that the dev used. Yet there was LITERALLY nothing wrong with the term.

The guy definitely made an ass of himself with his responses.

Like I said, both of them are idiots over this. It was pointless to make an issue out of it to begin with, and then then the dev making it even worse didn't help.

[–] hedgehog@ttrpg.network 37 points 4 months ago

I understand that

I’m not convinced

[–] 4am@lemm.ee 28 points 4 months ago

I understand

No, no clearly don’t.

[–] MrBobDobalina@lemmy.ml 24 points 4 months ago (1 children)

You seem very, very sure of there being "LITERALLY" no problem with the gendered pronoun being used for an unknown user.

Instead of hand-waving it away as the author being male and just prefering his own pronouns in his writing, we could maybe consider where it is being written and why it might feel particularly non-inclusive? ie: a field that has historically been very intentionally uninviting to women?

Also, it's not like this was someone petitioning for a boycott over one assumed pronoun, they just quietly fixed the grammar and submitted the change. Absolutely nothing idiotic about it.

[–] skizzles@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 months ago (1 children)

There literally wasn't a problem.

Until the person that asked for the correction literally assumed that said dev was assuming. Since thats what they said in their comment.

So I can understand being a little pissy at someone pointing to you and accusing you of assuming something. It's stupid.

I may have been a little irritated too if someone accused me of assuming something. I wouldn't have reacted the same, but I would have been clear that I in no way assume anything related to gender identity.

If the person wouldn't have put that assumption into their comment, the change may have been more likely to happen.

Instead they assumed something and got push back which turned into the scene we see now.

Ass u me... I mean it's pretty clear.

[–] MrBobDobalina@lemmy.ml 15 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Ah OK, I think we're getting to the heart of why you are saying that this wasn't an issue.

When you say that the author wasn't assuming anything, what exactly do you mean? If, for example, I write in a guide that if a user of my software does 'a' then he can expect result 'b', do you disagree that I am assuming my users go by he/him pronouns?

I might not have done it with intention, but there is an assumption being made there. Words mean things.

[–] skizzles@lemmy.ml 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Exactly this.

Just because you wrote your documentation a certain way, doesn't automatically mean that you feel a certain way about any particular group, or that your users are primarily a certain gender. It may just be writing what pronoun you are most familiar with.

In this particular case, we can see that the author didn't exactly make the best case for himself.

However, there was never a problem to begin with until the person that requested the change also accused the the author of assuming that the user/dev of the OS is male.

If that little bit of accusation would have been left out, and they just put a note like "grammatical correction" it may have just been accepted and moved on. Instead they asked for a change while accusing the author of feeling a certain way.

[–] MrBobDobalina@lemmy.ml 11 points 4 months ago

So, not 'exactly this'. I wrote that in my example an assumption had been made, whether I intended it or not.

Same as in the documentation this post is about, therefore the problem existed before it was pointed out.

The grammatical error to be fixed was the assumption in the language used. Both of these things are true. Pointing it out very simply, as part of providing the reason for the change, is completely normal

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

As an outside observer, who is a male which is important for this sentence, if something said "if a user of my software does 'a' then she can expect result 'b'," I wouldn't assume I couldn't use the software, I wouldn't be mad about the gendered pronoun, I wouldn't assume anything about the author, I'd say "cool so if I do A I can expect result B." I don't think I'd even give it a second glance, at best/worst I'd think "oh neat I wonder if the devs are women" and move on with installing the thing.

[–] MrBobDobalina@lemmy.ml 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

That's great! Same here, to be honest. But I also realise why it doesn't affect me, because as a man I've never felt unwelcome in these spaces purely on account of my gender.

Kind of like how as a white guy, I wouldn't really feel much other than a bit of surprise if someone called me a cracker. I haven't felt oppression and prejudice connected to that word, or any other that is to do with my whiteness. But I do NOT then turn around and say "well why are people upset about being called n-words? They should just move on with their day like I can!"

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

No honestly if we change it to be a woman dominated field where I'd feel unwelcome instead of a male dominated field, like say teaching, I still wouldn't be upset at the assumption because frankly it doesn't hinder my ability to understand the material, I can read it as a typo and move on.

Unless I guess the person was aware of who I am and intentionally misgendering me to be a dick, then yeah, but if we've never met and the thing I'm reading is general, then it basically is just a typo the author didn't realize they made.

[–] MrBobDobalina@lemmy.ml 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Right, so continue that thought into why you wouldn't be affected by it.

Perhaps you wouldn't actually feel quite so unwelcome in an education role as women might in STEM. I did a quick google to see if teaching was as female-dominated as STEM is male-dominated, and while yes it's very close, hilariously the first result was about how there is still a gender based wage gap issue even though it's so dominated in the other direction.... Interesting.

So while you might think you can really put yourself in their shoes by imagining yourself in a teaching role, now try imagining yourself as a woman in a male-dominated field, in a male-dominated society, in a male dominated world. Could be a little bit different, maybe

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Sure I guess I'd just be offended by everything always which doesn't sound exhausting at all. Or maybe I'm already not the top paid person in my field either and measuring my successes against others is a recipe for jealousy and misery. I guess it's dealer's choice really.

[–] MrBobDobalina@lemmy.ml 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Ah, women are just choosing to be unreasonably offended by the patriarchy. Got it.

Also - this wasn't even about someone being offended. It was a quiet PR to fix a grammatical mistake, and the reason given was simple and correct: the pronoun used was needlessly non-inclusive. It's everyone else who has an issue with this that seems to be offended, in my opinion

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I mean, yes. In some cases on some issues, some people get offended at things that are frankly a waste of anger. This is a good example of that imo, as opposed to being mad about real patriarchal shit like the wage gap, being mad because a general document says "he" seems like it's really jumping the shark.

Personally I'd probably have checked to make sure the person who submitted it didn't pull an XZ utils or just fuck something else up by accident before I merged it, but assuming it was literally just :%s/he/they/g then I'd have merged it, simply because while I don't think it's really that big of an issue either way it's easier to just do it than being brigaded and bullied.

[–] MrBobDobalina@lemmy.ml 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I mean, yes. In some cases on some issues, some people get offended at things that are frankly a waste of anger.

Agreed. Though I'm not sure how this is a good example, as the PR just fixed it without any anger or offence taken.

Then, there was anger after the PR got rejected because apparently being inclusive to women is 'political'. This is where you can see that the maintainer didn't just make a mistake, they made a choice and are sticking with it for reasons. This is where it becomes an issue.

[–] ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 4 months ago

Eh it still seems like it isn't that big of a deal what the words say to me at the root of the issue, as I said if it said "she" which is similarly exclusive not even to men because who cares but to nonbinary people and the like, and the maintainer refused to change it for whatever reason, I still wouldn't feel too strongly about it even though I'm technically excluded.

Maybe if she said "men can't use my software" or something I'd feel excluded, but if she just says "eh I'm not changing it to 'they' because X" I wouldn't care.

[–] Kissaki@beehaw.org 17 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

the whole point behind it was them making an assumption about something

What makes you think the change suggesters assumed ill intent?

The submitted PRs seem to reason improvement, not accuse the original author. I see them suggesting a change, neutrally. With (minimal) objective reasoning.

/edit: I see the later ones did. But the first one didn't. And the second one arguably didn't.

[–] unknowing8343@discuss.tchncs.de 45 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Look... I certainly (particularly verbally) will probably use "he" a lot more than I should... And no one cares.

But if someone makes a PR changing these into "they", I would reply with "shit, you're right, this is objectively better, thanks for your work".

Instead, these contributors get their PR shut down with the most terrible, supremacist excuse. That's the problem. There's the true idiot.

[–] _edge@discuss.tchncs.de 30 points 4 months ago

Obviously. It was a nice small PR to fix a typo and a pronoun in a readme file. This is the kind of change where you just press Accept, Merge, and go on with your life.

[–] 4am@lemm.ee 31 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I don’t think it’s “kinda dumb” to point out the issue all, unless you’re an insufferable twatwaffle like 90% of the fucking STEM community in 2024, who can never be wrong or challenged.

Like, I’d consider myself pretty progressive, maybe even “woke” if that still has any meaning left, and even I might have just used male pronouns because I myself am male;’not for malicious reasons but just because I wasn’t thinking in that moment.

But if I was like “oh yeah, that makes sense, and cool you even did the work of fixing it for me! Merged.” and went about my day, no one would have brigaded me, no one would have posted it all over socials, there wouldn’t be blogs and articles, and I’d probably have a leg to stand on if anyone still wanted to make a big deal.

The way this dude reacted was a self-report. The community was right to push back, even if some people ended up taking it too far.

[–] Kissaki@beehaw.org 6 points 4 months ago

The original text had 'he' where 'it' was correct. Which supports part of your premise.

They also merged a change request that changed those instances alongside 'they' instances. I don't know if the original author and denier was involved, but it's certainly important context missing from OP blog post.

[–] deikoepfiges_dreirad@lemmy.zip 21 points 4 months ago (1 children)

The guy is German, and the German language traditionally uses generic masculine pronouns, although that has become a big political issue in the past years. Some new gender-neutral forms have developed, but some of them have even been banned by the "center"-right-wing clowns in two state governments, and it's all a bit of a mess. The guy probably thoght "they" in English is a similarly experimental concept, and while it's still dumb and he should just try to be as inclusive as possible, it's probably not a matter of him purposefully excluding women from the documentation.

[–] luap@awful.systems 8 points 4 months ago

That makes more sense i guess, although even with that context as you said, it is still dumb. It's political in the US as well to use non gendered pronouns. It's generally aimed at hurting trans folks more than anything or anyone else. I could see the first time having it be a flippant meh response, but multiple times? Having had it explained clearly? Someone else has however said it has been fixed now. People can change, so my current plan is to assume things are better, cautiously, and hope they continue on a more pleasant path.

I wrote elsewhere that based on everything I read about gender the logical conclusion is that there are only two genders. Male and political.