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Image of a screenshot of Twitter of a screenshot of Facebook.

The Facebook screenshot reads:

Fun fact about me: When I'm having a conversation with you, I will periodically bring up personal experiences from my own life, interspersed withing your own stories that you're telling me. I'm not doing this to try and make the conversation about me, or to take away from your own experience. Actually, what I'm attempting to do, is to try and show you that I do, in fact, understand what you're trying to tell me, and that I am giving your story my full attention.

It can really be off-putting to some people, so if I've ever done this to you during a conversation, I just wanted to make sure you know that I wasn't trying to take over your story, I was just doing my best to connect with you in the moment.

The screenshot of Twitter reads:

This. I am fully aware that I do this. And I feel so guilty every time, but this. Understand this.

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[–] UnicornKitty@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

I rarely think about the fact it might look like I'm making the convo about ne but this is definitely true for me.

[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago

Damn. I remember realizing I do this often when I was young and feeling so guilty...

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee -3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

try active listening instead. therapists aren't supposed to sprinkle in self-disclosures but they still leave you feeling heard.

SOLER skills: sit squarely, open posture, lean in slightly, eye contact, react (mhm, nod)

if it makes you uncomfortable, good, it's supposed to be. relationships are scary. embrace discomfort, seek reward

Absolutely this.

Active listening is a skill.

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