My problem is that I get lost in what comes next in the conversation. Like I have to prepare my responses because they don't always come naturally. So asking a name is like a freebie but pretty shortly I'm completely out of bandwidth for remembering the name because it's all going into paying attention to what they're saying and coming up with whatever I say next. Not necessarily consciously either. I've also noticed I tend to remember names better in group conversations where there's definitely less pressure to listen and respond 1:1.

[–] Cyberwitch_7493@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 year ago

Well said. That's exactly how it feels for me.

[–] kevinbacon@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

ow, fuck.

[–] jaschen@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 1 year ago

With my ADHD, the first 3-5 minutes in a conversation with a new person, I have some sort of attention. In these 3 -5 minutes, I used their names in the conversion a bunch of times.

"That's interesting, Frank. What does Heather think?

I find this helps me remember their names better.