Asklemmy

I tried to find a server that isn't blocking anyone, and hasn't been defederated by any of the big servers.

I want to avoid an echo-chamber and have access to everything on the fediverse, including stuff I find distateful. If anything really bothers me I will block the community/instance myself, I don't want others making that choice for me.

Unfortunately there seems to be a lot of folks out there just searching for an excuse to clutch their pearls, rile up a mob, and defederate anything and everything that offends them.

I don't want to circlejerk in a safe space echo chamber, I want to see both the yin and the yang of humanity. I want that wild west feeling of the internet of old

It federates with the servers that have some stuff I want access to on them, and it also has rules against being a huge douche. And it's supported by Jerboa.

That's pretty much it. Mix of convenience and what passes for my moral scruples.

I read some comments that lemmy.ca was well run to the extent that it was being recommended even by non-Canadians. Being Canadian myself, that was good enough for me.

It's a friendly instance and is well-run. The admin manually approved registrations which kept them safe from the great bot invasion and is now upgrading the server and bringing on more admins.

I saw a local instance for new Zealanders and joined.

I frequently see Stux on mastodon, and I think they're a good person so I decided to choose one of their instances when choosing a Lemmy server.

The domain name. And the community seemed friendly enough. Now with the Reddit exodus, I'm glad I migrated to a smaller instance.

I run my own private instance so I am in control over my own data.

Tbh, I don’t think it matters what server you choose. Lemmy.world, Lemmy.ml, and Beehaw seem to be the big ones so picking a server that federates with those would be ideal.

lemmy.world because it was top recommended. In the future I might change to either host my own or use my wife's ex-husband's instance.

It does seem like some servers have specific niches, so if you're really interested in a specific servers niche using that instance would prevent you from having to sync those communities with your instance.

I'm new, so someone correct me if I'm wrong.

it was the only one when i joined

I’m a pirate 🏴‍☠️ and like the community itself, friendly and helpful.

Is there really a difference between the different servers? I just browse all (It's lemm.ee btw)

I was going to choose sopuli.xyz but you need to give them a reason to why you want there and I never heard back from them and logging in does nothing, so I assume I was not selected. I say it would be fair if there was some message to go f myself so that I wouldn't be held in eternal limbo.

So I chose lemmy.world as it's a general purpose instance and immediate registry.

I was planning to sign up at BeeHaw because it seems pretty active and with high quality discussions. When I heard that it had defederated from Lemmy.ml and Lemmy.world I decided not to sign up to any of those three as I would rather have access to all of them (though I can understand why BeeHaw defederated). So I just went with VLemmy.net as it was one of the recommended ones (on join-lemmy.org and the Awesome-Lemmy-Instances GitHub) and seems to be very broadly federated.

I don't think it matters too much, though I think if you were signed up on the same instances as all your favourite communities it would be a bit more convenient.

I tried a few, at one point a few weeks ago I thought I would stick with lemmy.world because (then) it wasn't the most popular instance and seemed to have good resources... but then it became the most popular instance and got defederated by beehaw (and I was subscribed to a few beehaw communities). So I signed up to feddit.uk just because I'm from the UK and it seemed solid. I think if you have no strong niche interest then picking one made for your region/country is a pretty good bet.

It was that or Beehaw and Beehaw happened to be down at the time.

One of the few only lgbt friendly servers

Was initially on lemmy.zip because it seemed really chill and that was such a cool instance name. I had no problems with it whatsoever but I realised it didn't block out certain instances that I disliked (aka lemmygrad). Now I'm on lemmy.fmhy.ml and I'm loving it so far since it had everything I needed:

1. Blocks out lemmygrad
2. Allows talk on piracy and NSFW content
3. Loads better compared to the more overpopulated instances
4. Wasn't very restrictive and was very welcoming (didn't even ask me for a reason for joining)

I added an account to a few geared towards specific community types. Then I can easily switch accounts and view local.

I'm considering standing up an instance for this type of thing myself.

Trans, pan, 196, and Blahaj is friend.

I saw a youtube video that said lemmy.ml was full so you can't join. I just picked a random one that wasn't ml so I chose lemmy.world

I picked lemmy.world because it was recommended and had a large userbase. I know Beehaw defederated from lemmy.world and sh.itjustwor.ks, so if you want to interact with that community, that could be a consideration against, but since the user population across all of Lemmy is currently increasing dramatically, I think everything's a bit of a moving target regardless.