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Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like? (startrek.website)
submitted 1 year ago by swab148@startrek.website to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we're all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

  1. Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.

  2. ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.

  3. E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it's possible).

  4. Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.

  5. Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we're here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

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[–] Oka@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I'm a coder and I have no idea how to do this

Do you want it to show matches with people who are around your location, or anyone on the internet? If it's the latter, maybe try starting a dating community, if there isn't one already.

You could have people start a thread with the basic info: age, location, gender, sexuality, etc. Then what you're looking for: age range, hookup or long term, etc.

The comments could be general questions like an AMA to get a better idea.

If someone likes your style, they can send OP a DM

[–] mojo@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

You literally just described tinder

[–] JasSmith@sh.itjust.works -3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If it’s on Lemmy it would be a hilarious political purity test to see who could virtue signal harder. It would be insufferable. That’s why most users don’t have any kids or spouses. I honestly couldn’t think of a worse place to set up a dating service.

[–] Haui@discuss.tchncs.de 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I had to look up „virtue signaling“ because I‘m old.

This was the best explanation I found: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sAmM872874A

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[–] JasSmith@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

That's hilarious! Here's another one. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ev373c7wSRg

This one's great too! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ohm9C4u63qk

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[–] Haui@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 1 year ago

The first one is actually very funny, until you start reading between the lines.

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