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[–] li10 165 points 7 months ago (79 children)

I get where they’re coming from, but it’s still not great being a guy and only getting vague signals that you’re trying to piece together. Ghosting is also another issue that’s honestly just disrespectful.

While it may ultimately be those man children who ruin it for everyone, some upfront honesty is generally very appreciated.

[–] zarkanian@sh.itjust.works 12 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Ghosting is also another issue that’s honestly just disrespectful.

While that can be annoying, if somebody's ghosting you, that's just a signal to move on, yeah? You probably don't want a relationship with somebody who can't communicate, anyway.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 8 points 7 months ago (2 children)

It's a shitty signal because it is just not replying to you and not a specific signal on its own. Could be for a bunch of reasons so you'll have to guess that they're ghosting you. It takes a while and even then you might not be sure.

[–] TheKingBee@lemmy.world -3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

It is a clear signal, it says very clearly and in no uncertain terms they don't want to talk to you.

Your need for "closure" or whatever doesn't matter.

[–] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 9 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

It could be that you are busy, had some issues, many other reasons. The whole point of a clear signal is that it's easy to understand and with as little room for misunderstanding, which ghosting is obviously not. If you want to ghost someone, by all means, but it's def not a clear or direct signal.

Not to mention, I thought the whole point was that you don't have to be direct and clear about it and hence won't have to face the possible backlash.

Your need for “closure” or whatever doesn’t matter.

I'm not sure what you mean by this. I didn't think my "needs" were a subject of the discussion lol

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