Not my note.
It's so easy to rip people down. Pump someone's tires. It means way more than you can imagine.
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That is awesome.
And in answer to the question in the title: Yes. Yes it is. Toxic masculinity has never been about man=bad or anything. It's about finding better ways of being masculine. That's what it was always supposed to be.
Good men are real; I've met many of them. It isn't some impossible ideal, but a process of self improvement that anyone can jump on.
Is it OK to 💩 on men in the meantime? (I’m a man who’s usually fine with it.)
e.g. IDK, “men are predators” or something - really broad brush stuff that has an origin in accuracy, but is a majorly broad brush all the same. I’ve wondered if we don’t need to be more careful with those statements, as heartfelt as they may be.
So long as it's measured self depreciation, it's probably fine. If you want a women centered version of this, see @femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Ah maybe not self deprecation, like maybe you see a story about a rapist and comment
I guess complaining about white people can be the same thing. Special rules for criticizing oppressors; you’d only hear complaints from right wing folks.
RE: femcelmemes: thanks, had never browsed the community itself before - tame stuff overall :)
I try to keep it positive there, as I've seen similar communities turn into spiraling pits of self hatred. Making fun of weakness is productive, but feeling ashamed is not.
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