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I can't speak for anyone else, but you seem to be missing the biggest issue with this map: saying "you guys" excludes anyone but those identifying as male. You may not mean it that way, but I've had women be offended when I used that in the past, and I wouldn't like being referred to as a "gal" in a group of women. It's just not accurate.
Personally, for a gender-neutral way of addressing a group, I like "you folks".
English is not my native language. I felt kinda weird about using "you guys" until I heard a woman that used "you guys" to a 100% woman group. I stopped caring about that shit because natural languages are weird and it all doesn't matter. What matters is the intention of what you say, not its form. Y'all should stop caring about fixing other people's speech too.