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Men are bad at cleaning => sexist
Men are not taught as children to clean => not sexist
Men can't emotionally regulate => sexist
Men are not socialized to emotionally regulate => not sexist
Women can't change a tire => sexist
Women aren't taught to change a tire => not sexist
Women are emotional => sexist
Women are taught to share their emotions => not sexist
There's a big difference between making a statement about society and making a statement about humanity.
Could you elaborate on why you feel one or more of those statements is harmful? These sorts of statements were very helpful to me growing up, it was pivotal in realizing there wasnt something wrong with me, but rather i just needed to seek some extra instruction. Seems like the one on emotional regulation might be very helpful to you as well, as it seems to be limiting your ability to communicate here.
You don't seem to be reading my comments, or perhaps you are conflating them with someone elses?
Firstly, I asked why the statements that I said are not sexist are harmful, I don't think your statement answers that.
Second, the whole point of my initial post and the original post here, is that it isn't biological differences, it's social differences about how you are raised, how you were taught. Within a western context we all were sent to the same schools, the same playground experiences, the same movies and TV and the same daycares. Even if an individual escapes the socialization of one of these vectors, they are still exposed to all the others. that's what's under critique, not inherent truths about humanity. It's important to introspect on these issues and seek to unlearn the parts that are harmful.
I also never even mentioned the word rapists in any of my comments, that seems like an entirely separate conversation entirely.