Final edit: Sorry guys, this got out of hand as I feared and it would take too long to answer everything properly and it would just offend more people.
I got some nice tips for finding places and learned more about Australian's views on the subject. I should have been more careful with what I said. It changed my opinion somewhat but people here would still not like it, so I'll keep it to myself.
Thanks for the very civilized and nice answers and I'm sorry if I didn't answer. I would like to, but in private, or this could become a witch hunt. I do not wish to offend anyone or be attacked because of that. As someone commented, I am the problem here.
Hi everyone, I’ve been lurking for a long time and decided to try to ask something I can’t find out.
First, please be tolerant about the question. I am an Australian citizen, but from a foreign background, so cultural things that seem sacred and unquestionable here are not the same to me. I wouldn’t be crazy to post this on reddit (though I deleted my account ages ago) because I know all the posts would just be attacking me (if you don’t like it, leave, are you defending terrorists?, and so on), instead of helpful comments. Hopefully it will be different here.
The question is: is there any Australian town free from military worship? I mean monuments everywhere, pools and parks named after it and so on. Somewhere I can forget and pretend that this is not how the rest of Australia is.
I’ve been traveling around trying to find a place I would like to settle. I found many small towns I liked, but it seems that the smaller the town, the higher the military worship. They may not even have a public toilet, but they will have a military worship statue that seemed to have cost more than all the town to build.
I love Australia, specially the outback, but the military worship issue is so big that makes me think of looking for another country. I know my taxes are being used to send people to kill whoever the US doesn’t like, and the country prides itself with this history. But if I can ignore that, I can pretend to myself that it’s not true and live happy. I tried to fight the issue for a long time but it makes no difference except to me, sacrificing my well being for nothing. But if I keep being reminded every time I go to do groceries trough the park “invasion of foreign country divine pride park”, it will be impossible. I already try to avoid news and ABC, so it should be possible.
I’m sending a picture of some of the places I’ve been to, without much luck. Funny enough, the town I liked the most, Roma, is the worst, with military trees every 10 meters.
Anyway, that’s it. Maybe I’ll get downvoted to oblivion, but let’s try…
By the way, I don’t know if I am posting this correctly, on the right place and everything. It’s my first lemmy post as well. It's very confusing to know the community to post. It shows everything everwhere!
Edit- I posted this before, thought it was in the wrong place, deleted and posted again. Now I see 2 of the posts and the deleted one has 2 upvotes. This is so confusing...
Edit2 - Before I get any comment, I dislike military worship from any country, not just Australia. Military may or not be necessary in modern societies, but worship and praise should never be acceptable and is specially dangerous when applied to a group with power. Citizens should always be skeptical of their military group, its uses, powers and permissions. It should be like owning a gun. You may be allowed to have one but should be constantly proving you are not doing anything wrong with it. The definition of what is "wrong" or "right" should be constantly questioned as well.
Edit3 - just a reminder, that I do not wish to change anyone's point of view. It's your tradition and culture and I respect, but I don't have to like it and I would like to figure out how to avoid it. It is all. I would like to stop Australian involvment in American wars, but besides that I don't mind if Australians like military or not, but I would like to avoid being exposed to that, assuming that is possible, which is the reason for the post, so I can find out.
I'll be honest, I think you're going to struggle to find anything that suits you purely because you seem to be looking for ways to be upset and put your views of war onto others.
I think first of all, you're confusing remembrance, and honouring the loss of soldiers lives, for military worship. Many people have lost loved ones who've fought in wars to protect them. So they try remember that honour and sacrifice, to show respect for the lives lost and to remember what they fought for. You're viewing each soldier as a part of a collective, each war as something that could have been avoided. But many see them as friends and family lost forever. As people whom they loved and cared for. Would you not be upset if those close to you died? Would that change if they died fighting in a war? Most monuments and statues I've seen in Australia refer to WW1 and WW2 as well. We lost a lot of good people trying to fight against a powerful, violent enemy.
Military worship would be praising current soldiers and bowing and treating them specially. I've never seen that in Australia. We treat soldiers as regular people. In small towns you'll likely see some show for them, as they've likely been away from home at a military base for a long time and are now returning. They're not celebrating war, they're welcoming the return of family and friends.
Because you seem to dislike war, you're placing the values you see onto others. You need to gain perspective and realise the intent of why we honour the dead and remember our history. It is not to glorify war.
You say it should be like owning a gun and constantly proving you're not doing something wrong? I don't get what you mean by that. There are gun owners in Australia, and they aren't constantly made to prove they're not doing anything wrong. Our military history is far from perfect, especially in modern times. But statues and monuments and parks aren't to ignore that. You see praising the good as ignoring the bad, when that is not the intention.
The thing is, I come from a different country, so it's natural for me to think "what about the other side? didn't they lose lives? wheren't those lives taken by Australians, same as the Australians where taken from them?"
I don't have patriotism. Australian lives are as important as Turkish, Korean, Vietnamese, etc, etc. If there should be a monument for Australian lives lost, there should be a same amount for lives Australians took. There should be no monument for anyone taking anyone's lives in my opinion. I have the same opinion for my country of origin.
I would be upset if someone close to me died. But if he died going to a war to kill someone, I would never blame who killed him, but who made him go there. There is a vilain and an enemy in these stories, but I think it's usually not the guy with the weapon. It's the guys behind them. Every soldier usually think he's fighting for something good (except a big part who just really enjoy killing).
Unfortunately I can't make my question about the towns without exposing my reasons, my feelings regarding the issue. I do not plan to change anyone's point of view here (and I regret that I am debating, but how can I talk about it without expressing my reasons?), just trying to find how to live happily in a society with a few values I don't share. Every country will have that.
Sorry about the gun comparison. I am ignorant of the laws regarding guns. I thought gun owners had to prove every once in a while the gun is safe and they are sane.
And as I said in another post, I think the intentions of the memorials, if they are as you say, are not having the proper effect.
Again you're failing to see the other side. Falling back into ignorance. Most of what you've said is horrifically arrogant. You've ignored my most important points. This response may seem angry but your response comes off as incredibly selfish. You seem to think war is a choice made by both sides. It honestly comes off entitled and selfish.
My parents immigrated here as well. That doesn't really affect anything. Those people have monuments in their home towns and countries. Where they are from. Do you think every country should honour every person ever? Do you think those people want monuments in the countries they fought against? I highly doubt anyone would. Like I said and you've ignored, it's to honour their family and friends.
Again you're being seemingly purposefully ignorant. This isn't patriotism, although I was born here with my siblings, the rest of my family were not and they can still understand what memorials are for.
This is about real people, not the concept of a countries military. You refuse to separate the person from the soldier. You treat every soldier as if they're one single entity whose life only consisted of war. They are people, and it's rude of you not to treat them as people. The monuments are not for taking lives, but for lives lost. They're not posting kill counts and bragging. They're remembering their dead friends and family.
Again, you're ignoring my point. These aren't blame to those who killed him. And what do you mean made him go there, do you believe every soldier is drafted? Or are you saying whomever starts a war is always wrong? The point was, if you lost a friend, you'd likely want to honour them.
You're just making up points to justify your feelings. There is villains and enemies on both sides in a war. Blood on all hands. There's complications to every aspect of life. It's just easier for you to call things black and white and call yourself smart for choosing a side. War is an unfortunate but real part of life. You're just imagining you're more intelligent and more evolved for not wanting violence. It's honestly quite arrogant. Sometimes there isn't a choice but to get a weapon when you're being fired at. Assuming a big part of soldiers love killing? Why because of a few Hollywood movies? No, you're just trying to justify your beliefs.
But you're not willing to change, so you expect society to change for you. You've made your mind, are ignoring all the points I've made, and refusing to see another perspective. All you've done is double down and brag about your pacifism. Quite frankly, I doubt there's a country in the world that will suit your ego.
I've never seen a single opinion as narrow minded as yours. The effect is clearly just missed by you, because you don't want to see it. You're making yourself feel smart, superior, better than others for making choices with hindsight. Quite frankly it's arrogant and shameful.
Since you ignored my entire point of separating the soldier and person in my first post, I won't be responding again. You need to remember a person is more than their job. They were a brother, a son, a friend, a student, so many things to so many people. It's rude of you to boil down their existence to your narrow view of the world. Keep feeling superior for not wanting war and imagining the rest of the world is bloodthirsty and violent. Because with that much ego, you'll be alone a long time.
Sorry, you wrote a lot and I feel disrespectful not to answer, but you are really seeing this in a very emotional and deep manner. It would end up being just a fight. I am not trying to offend you and what you consider important. You just have to understand that others might not find it as important for various reasons.
There would be much I could talk about, but better not to let this get emotional. I am just looking for a place, not trying to change how anyone sees the issue.