avirse

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[–] avirse 10 points 1 year ago

This is why I concluded that I can't live in shared housing. Thankfully my social phobia isn't triggered by living with a partner or I'd be fucked as far as affording housing.

I don't have any useful advice or way to help, but you're not a burden and you're not the only one to feel this way. Sorry if that's not exactly comforting.

[–] avirse 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

My instinctive response is that it's a terrible idea. While having no expectation to mask is great, it seems to me that gathering a group of people who generally struggle to take care of themselves and their environment and who have very low tolerance for certain environmental stimuli and a deep need for other environmental stimuli is a recipe for chaos.

I attend a local autistic adults zoom group every other week, and it's great for support and understanding, but if I had to be in the same room as one of the other members their stims would give me a meltdown. I over-empathise emotionally, an autistic friend has almost no emotional empathy, as a result some of our interactions do not go as intended. Multiply these kinds of issues with having to effectively live with eachother and I just don't see it going well.

[–] avirse 14 points 1 year ago

Given the context of the article, the alternative suggestion isn't "set up your own server" but "use software that doesn't require a server", which sidesteps most of that list.

[–] avirse 1 points 1 year ago

There is definitely an underlying assumption that everything is infinitely replaceable or accessible, especially for books and media, which is simply not true. But starting from the assumption that everything is valuable is just as bad. If you can identify where the value actually lies for you it can help.

E.g. for me the thing that's valuable is knowing what I thought of a book when I read it and how it made me feel, because my memory is very poor. Now I've started keeping a digital notebook with a private review of each thing I read, so I only have to keep books I want to read again. Which is still a lot, but much less than it was.

[–] avirse 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That point about how sensory processing issues can affect your health is so on point, I had no idea how much of my general anxiety was caused just by the world being too loud and bright. Earplugs and sunglasses worked instantly where 5 different medications failed to do anything.

[–] avirse 3 points 1 year ago

That may be your experience, my partner and I use it co-op on every game that has it and watch each other play singleplayer, so it's almost never out of the dock. I imagine many families with multiple kids and not enough budget to get everyone their own would do the same.

[–] avirse 11 points 1 year ago

We broke the Anima system in half with overpowered characters. Not that it holds together very well normally. One mage character boosting the tank's strength high enough to lift a mountain and creating him a giant tungsten lump, another mage opening a portal directly above a bad guy's tower, apply tungsten to tower at great speed. No more tower. The GM was too amused to be mad that we wrecked his whole plan. We used the same trick to launch a necronomicon into the sun (or near enough). Also so many magically created artefacts, creation mages are just bullshit. But I got away with it because I made some for everyone.

[–] avirse 32 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Because the number of people who won't buy it because of the LCD screen is smaller than the number of additional people who will buy it if it's $X cheaper at launch.

[–] avirse 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm so glad you're feeling validated, it's so miserable to be adrift in thoughts of "what's wrong with me"!

Stimming is one of those things that everyone does to an extent, since it's basically just "doing things that feel nice". The difference for neurodivergent folks is that it helps us emotionally regulate in a way that neurotypical folks don't need, so we tend to do it a lot more often (or feel extra stressed/anxious/irritable).

[–] avirse 14 points 1 year ago

This is what smartphones are for. Take picture of clothing item. Take picture of clothing item tag. Save pictures in a "clothes" folder that is synced and/or backed up elsewhere and reference them as needed.

[–] avirse 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't know. "Functional rebalancing" would be more accurate, but kind of clunky. I can't think of anything more pithy.

[–] avirse 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don't seem to be able to reply to WookieMunster so I'll say here:

I don't get the hype over OLED screens, honestly. The difference isn't enough for me to care, and it'll be plugged into a TV most of the time anyway. It's only a downgrade in that one area and only if you have an OLED Switch, whereas I don't have any kind of Switch and couldn't tell you which model my husband's (the one I've played) is.

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