Go there, ring the bell, tell them. The longer you wait the creepier that conversation is going to be.
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Yeah exactly right. In a few weeks it's worse.
And when you do it, make sure you stare at them unblinkingly to assert dominance.
Bring a video.
I feel like most of the comments are making a bigger deal out of this than it really is. "Hey guys, just FYI your frosted windows aren't frosted enough, we can see through them from over here, just thought you should know"
It's not really a complicated conversation.
Right? It'd be a bit of an embarrassing conversation but it would be a lot less awkward to bring it up now instead of waiting months to tell them. The longer you wait the harder it'll be to tell them that you can see them naked.
just tell them asap. idk who tf thought it'd be a good idea to put windows in a bathroom.
Probably someone not fond of mold I guess.
Or daylight.
Windows in a bathroom let in so much natural light, I always feel much more comfortable with windows (even really big ones) as long as all the important parts aren't visible from outside.
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You don't have to say "Hey, I can see your dang-a-lang" but maybe something like "Hey, you might want to frost your window more because I can almost see my reflection in your mirror" might work.
Just tell them. If that was me Iβd wanna know ASAP!
The framing in this conversation is important. This is difficult, but making it clear you'd rather not see that is how I'd go.
I'd tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.
No way around it, it's going to be a bit awkward, but telling them shouldn't seem like a weird thing to do. If you're polite, telling them about the issue is a kind thing to do.
I'd tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.
This is a great advice. Little buffer gray zone so you don't have to directly say "hey, I can see you when you take a shit".
I may be overthinking it, but I feel like bringing up those kinds of details unprompted is more awkward. Like you're hiding that you did see something.
Just say you can see into their bathroom and thought they should know. If they ask what you saw, or if they look absolutely mortified you can assure them you didn't see anything like that.
I think it's just a white lie to make this interaction easier. It's something to fall back on. Probably both parties in that conversation actually know that something was seen but this way it's easier to move past that (and ignore it).
And yeah just saying "I can see in your bathroom" would work too but it might be a bit hard to say that if you have social anxiety (or something) so this plan is just to alleviate that stress.
Ask them to dinner and explain you usually like to enjoy a hot meal with someone before you see them naked. Classy AF.
Can and should I slowly undress during the dinner?
Maybe? But the dinner should definitely only consist of phallic foods. All the sausages (bonus points for those big Chorizo that curl up), aubergine, cucumber etc churros for dessert. Really sets the tone.
If You really want to by truly anonymous You could try to drop a message into the letter box. Check the visibility angles of their bathroom windows, so it won't be obvious it is You.
They might be installed backwards. I think some frosted glass is designed to act similar to a one-way mirror. So they're probably inside thinking that the glass is practically opaque.
Stand naked outside the window and knock.
Or, just put a letter in the mailbox or on the front porch.
Youβre going to have to post a few pictures for us to better asses the situation π€£
I would not say anything. Not my problem.
You're assuming they care. Maybe they're comfortable with themselves. I used to make eye contact with my neighbors when I was showering and they were mowing. They stopped looking.
But what if you told them and they say " We know :)"?
Threesome!
Send them a dick pick of their own dick. that glass will be frosty the next time you see it.
I'd drop a note, to avoid the awkward conversation that might happen & to avoid embarrassing your neighbour.
Even an anonymous note in their mailbox saying something to the effect of: "FYI, I can still see your naughty bits, not that I'm looking."
Invite him over while she is taking a shower. Enjoy the view together. Let them draw their own conclusions.
We need photo evidence to verify your claims.
Bring up this issue happening with you, in casual conversation. For example: "when I moved here the house had a lot of issues, for example [...] and the glass was not frosted enough. We eventually fixed this [...]"
The idea here is that you won't be telling them directly, they're going to realise it on their own.
I love this haha, I live in NZ and people here are very indirect and non confrontational.
I'm Dutch so quite the opposite.
I was working with a Dutch guy, he'd just flown back to Netherlands and I sent him an email that went something like:
Hi Jan,
Hope you made it back ok,
<work question>
Cheers,
Dandan
He replied inline to my email and under "Hope you made it back ok" he wrote " >I do not understand why this is relevant"