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I've seen "let alone" used on Lemmy a good number of times now and, at least when I noticed it, it was always used incorrectly. It's come to a point where I still feel like I'm being gaslit even after looking up examples, just because of the sheer amount of times I've seen it used outright wrong.

What I'm talking about is people switching up the first and last part. In "X, let alone Y" Y is supposed to be the more extreme case, the one that is less likely to happen, or could only happen if X also did first.

The correct usage: "That spaghetti must have been months old. I did not even open the box, let alone eat it."

How I see it used constantly: "That spaghetti must have been months old. I did not eat it, let alone open the box."

Other wrong usage: "Nobody checks out books anymore, let alone visits the library."

Why does this bug me so much? I don't know. One reason I came up with is that it's boring. The "wrong" way the excitement always ramps down with the second sentence, so why even include it?

I am prepared to be shouted down for still somehow being incorrect about this. Do your worst. At least I'll know I keep shifting between dimensions where "let alone" is always used differently or something.

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[–] ToffeeIsForClosers@lemmy.world 2 points 30 minutes ago

I once read a David Foster Wallace essay where he pointed out the improper grammar of “the reason is because” vs “the reason is that”.

Now I see it everywhere.

[–] pocopene@lemmy.world 3 points 53 minutes ago

English language learner here. Would "let alone" basically have the same meaning than "not to mention"?

[–] TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 9 points 6 hours ago

I wanted to highlight that this use of "let alone" is only for the negative construction where "let alone" means the same thing as "much less".

In a more positive construction "let alone" means the same as "not to mention" while both not letting it alone and still mentioning it. The earliest reference in the OED is of this construction:

“I didn’t hide, nor wouldn’t from any man living, let alone any woman.”

Before this use, to "let alone" was to "leave alone" and dates back to the old English.

I'm not sure when the negative construction of "let alone" first emerged, but it's no more than two hundred or so years old.

[–] Hegar@fedia.io 16 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Shouldn't the content warning be for Prescriptivism?

Prescriptivism is prescribing how language should or should not be used, and is generally avoided by all linguists who aren't 19thC european aristocrats intent on using language as a class marker.

Descriptivism is just describing how language is used by its speakers, without passing judgement.

[–] kabi@lemm.ee 2 points 3 hours ago

Ah hehe in my defense it was 4am :)

[–] mittyta@lemmy.world 3 points 5 hours ago

I think there is a phrase (at least in my native language) ”X, not even Y” where meaning is the opposite - Y should be less extreme case. Maybe them mix this phrases?

[–] Mr_Blott 3 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Off my chest - if you're the kind of person that necessitates a content warning on this kind of post, you should be banned from the internet

[–] kabi@lemm.ee 5 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

My brother, it is a joke. (That I fucked up the first time.)

[–] fern@lemmy.autism.place 2 points 2 hours ago

Why? Here the content warning told me I didn't have to read the post to know they're wrong :)

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 1 points 4 hours ago (2 children)

In "X, let alone Y" Y is supposed to be the more extreme case, the one that is less likely to happen, or could only happen if X also did first

Other wrong usage: "Nobody checks out books anymore, let alone visits the library."

X = "Nobody checks out books anymore": less extreme. People could go to be going to the library and choosing to read books there.

Y = "let alone visits the library": more extreme. People don't even go to the library, so they wouldn't be able to check out books even if they wanted to.

Why is that usage not correct? According to you definition, it should be. We it the other way around, then it would be wrong (according to your definition).

Please explain.

[–] RustyEarthfire@lemmy.world 11 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

You are getting confused because you are comparing negations. It's "visiting the library" that is less extreme than "checking out a book".

This is also more of an example of dependency rather than extremity. That is, "checking out a book" could only happen if "visiting the library" happened first. So you could say "I never even travelled to North Korea, let alone bought a souvenir there" -- while buying a souvenir is small compared to travelling to NK, the travelling would have to happen first, so the phrase makes sense.

[–] atro_city@fedia.io 1 points 1 hour ago

This is not confusion, but a different view point, just like 6 is 9.

In the previous example with the library, at least people are still reading books in a library. One should be happy that the library is being used. However, if people don't even go to a library, that is more extreme because its existence will be futile.

"I've never bought a souvenir in North Korea, let alone traveled there." is just another way to phrase the same fact from a different view point. Buying souvenirs is trivial and it would be trivial, if I had ever been to North Korea, and since I haven't, it's the more extreme of the two.

Do you understand now?

[–] kabi@lemm.ee 7 points 3 hours ago

or could only happen if X also did first.

You can't check out a book if you don't go to the library. What I mean by more extreme is this, that it requires the first one as a prior condition, or is otherwise asserted to be less likely to happen.

My on the spot made up definition may not have been the clearest :)

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 11 points 8 hours ago

It's not my pet peeve, but it does irk me. I'll stand with you against the wronglings.

[–] kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 20 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (2 children)

That is a fair grammatical pet peeve. I have a pet peeve for when people use words for the exact opposite of their meaning. Not just your classic "could care less", or other things that mostly just come from people mishearing the correct phrase, but using entirely different words whose definition literally means the opposite of what they mean.

A couple examples:

  1. I had a Facebook friend talk about how, before he went on a trip overseas for a few months, like 30 people threw him a surprise going away party. He described this event as "humbling". Yeah, that giant group of people coming out to celebrate you in particular and personally send you off on your trip must have really took you down a peg. I'm sure it really lowered your ego and made you realize you aren't important.

  2. I CONSTANTLY hear in tv shows and movies stuff like "I'm really anxious to get going. I've been looking forward to this all week." The word is "eager". You are eager for something good that you have been anticipating. You are only anxious for some upcoming event that you are dreading or that you are trying to avoid, something causing you anxiety, thus the word. You are anxious for the upcoming test you arent prepared for and you are anxious to escape the haunted house without screaming like a little girl at a jump scare. You are not anxious to earn a payraise.

[–] ccunning@lemmy.world 9 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I mostly agree with everything you said, but words can have multiple meanings like anxious:

  1. Characterized by extreme uneasiness of mind or brooding fear about some contingency; WORRIED
  2. Characterized by, resulting from, or causing anxiety; WORRYING
  3. Ardently or earnestly wishing
[–] kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 1 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (1 children)

See the problem with that is that I believe the 3rd meaning there comes from the common misuse of the word. Otherwise the connotation behind the word loses all meaning. It would be indiscernible in what way you anticipating an event if the word means something you dread and something you eagerly wait using the exact same phrase. "I'm anxious for dad to get home", for example, should have the connotation that they are expecting trouble when their dad gets home, while "I'm eager for dad to get home" tells you that something good will come with dad's arrival. But that third definition means "anxious" gives both connotations, or rather neither. If anxious is both an antonym and a synonym to "eager", it's a linguistically meaningless word. Why bother saying it at all if you also have to explain it or give additional context to understand which polar opposite meaning you intended?

[–] TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 6 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

So to your first concern, the link address it:

The word has been used in the sense of "eager" for a considerable length of time, with evidence going back at least to the 17th century.

How long does a term have to be commonly missed before it is just a common use?

As for your second concern, language isn't separate from context. The use comes first in context and then we derive definitions. 🌍👨🏾‍🚀🔫👩🏾‍🚀

[–] kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Again, not saying it's not common use. It clearly is. But it robs the word of any meaning on its own and makes so that it has to be propped up by context to have any meaning at all. It's not like a word taking on an entirely new definition unrelated to its previous use or it's previous definitions being replaced by new ones. It's newer definition is the exact opposite of its original and yet both definitions are commonly used in the exact same phrasing. Like I said, it's a pet peeve. This newer common use definition makes the word mean nothing at all to the listener. I think anxious and eager are two separate words that should serve two separate purposes in language and making anxious mean both is dumb.

[–] ThisIsNotHim@sopuli.xyz 5 points 10 hours ago

In regards to anxious: I suspect this usage is similar to "anxiously awaiting" just morphed slightly. "I'm anxiously awaiting a raise" makes sense as a sentence, but is a bit clunky.

[–] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 13 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks for this, we don't want to loose sight of the correct usage.

[–] voracitude@lemmy.world 5 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

loose sight

Please tell me that was intentional. It's the internet, I can't tell.

[–] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 1 points 50 minutes ago

Don't worry, it was intentional. It's one of my pet peeves although not quite in the same category as the OPs one.

[–] scrion@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

You don't know what you ask, traveler. My strongest potions would kill a dragon, let alone a man.

Interestingly, a short bit later in the video, the usage feels reversed: My potions are fit for a beast, let alone a man.

[–] _cnt0@sh.itjust.works 1 points 6 hours ago

Your literally making a mountain out of an anthill, let alone slightly overexeggerating a tiny nonissue. Get out of here with you're language policing. Grammer nazis like you should be thrown into the specific ocean.

[–] tkohldesac@lemmy.world 15 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I didn’t know this, I don’t think I used it incorrectly before, but thanks to you I’m going to see this every time now and it’s going to bug me. Thanks for the infection, haha.

[–] Speculater@lemmy.world 8 points 11 hours ago

Let alone try to understand how to use it.

[–] xep@fedia.io 9 points 10 hours ago

I can't even use let alone idiomatically, let alone use it in an interesting way!

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 points 8 hours ago

Ok.

Now do 'emails' and 'the ask'.

[–] Zachariah@lemmy.world 3 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Thanks for the copy pasta.

[–] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 4 points 11 hours ago

People literally use it wrong all the time.

[–] horse_battery_staple@lemmy.world -5 points 11 hours ago (2 children)
[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 4 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

"use dictates form" is dumb; and allows the language to be driven by vapid ig famewhores. We allow for the unwashed to curate the language and we ultimately get people stupid enough to elect a serial felon to office. Twice.

get people stupid enough to elect a serial felon to office. Twice.

That's already happened.

You may want to look to the disenfranchisement of the working class and the war on education to be the issue with that. Gatekeeping language doesn't educate anyone and actually deters them from becoming engaged with language in the first place.

[–] Rozz@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 11 hours ago

I was ready to comment this when I saw the post, but when I read it I think it just doesn't make sense in the inverse for this saying.