Today is our daughters birthday and we are both in a daze of "how are they so old already"...
The past week has been a chill one so couldn't ask for anything more really.
this post was submitted on 06 Apr 2024
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It's happening. My eldest is six. And I've noticed that when it comes to being a stubborn git, she's definitely more her Mum than she is me.
She'll refuse to do the most benign things. Getting dressed and brushing her teeth is an absolute battle. Trying to get her to eat anything that's not a ketchup covered fish finger? An Impossibility. She's her Mum. Classic 'cutting off her nose to spite her face' sort of stuff.
Ay ay ay.
My 6 year old is the same, it's infuriating. It's exhausting trying to get him to do the most basic shit, and the time we've spent arguing about it he could have done said task about ten times. And there's never any sense of urgency. We can be in a rush and told him explicitly that we need to hurry up as we're late and that he needs to put his shoes on (after already being told 4 times) and he'll be spinning around in the middle of the room. I know it's normal kid stuff and I probably did it too but it's maddening!
Tea time is always a point of frustration. No matter what we make he seems to hate it and won't eat it. He's decided that he's vegetarian too, which we support but it has blown all of the recipes that we normally make out the water and meal planning is an even bigger pain than it was.
What really grinds my gears though is when he's constantly moaning that he's hungry before dinner, he'll then eat two mouthfuls of food, say he's full, then 20 minutes later: "dad I'm hungry, is there anything I can eat?". YES YOU LITTLE BASTARD, YOUR GOD DAMN DINNER THAT'S STILL ON THE TABLE! Obviously I don't say that to him but I say it to myself in my mind!
Yeah we've got some of this, although perhaps not as frustratingly bad as you guys.
She's very picky, but we've gotten to the point that we just cook what the other three of us eat and if she doesn't want it then so be it.
I should emphasize that we generally only eat what we know she likes, but for some reason she'll decide on a random wednesday that now she doesn't like peas and .....yeah okay.
Banana before bed I guess.
Man that must get pretty tiring!
It was all good until I told my partner that she absolutely gets it from her. That did not go well for me 😬😬
You've built up skills to deal with your partner, I assume, you can apply those to your kid to see how well they work. The only downside is that you may need to bring your partner in on it and "train" them to deal with their mini me (share what you find works)
I feel this.
More friend making for us which is nice. Gone from 1 friend at preschool two weeks ago to 3 now.
One odd thing is that all the friends look similar, like my kid has a 'type' haha
I've been pretty desperate for some good 'Dad friends' for a while now but it's never happened. I only do pick up and drop offs once a week, and whilst people are friendly it's never gone any further than that. Sadness.
Ah yeah I meant my kids friends, not ours.
We don't have any friends of parents from preschool yet. I think everyone is in a rush when dropping their kids off!
I just woke up to the sound of my 11 year old nephew inconsolable and screaming at the top of his lungs at his widowed mom (my sister): "Get out! Do it! I'm warning you! Go now!"
I assume this has something to do with breakfast. Don't ask me how I know that.
Edit: yep he had a brownie mug for breakfast and also wanted a popsicle and she said no. This escalated into him hitting her, too. He's fine now. She's fine now?