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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Oneeightnine to c/dads
 

I'm not entirely sure what this post is for, I guess I'm just looking for some advice, maybe a little understanding?

The last few weeks I've been feeling incredibly overwhelmed, overworked and generally just burnt out.

For context I work a 50 hour week in a warehouse; it's a pretty crap job that physically really takes it out of me. My weekends? Well my partner then goes to work for 2 days; which means I'm solo-parenting the five and two year old.

The eldest is full of sass, and the youngest is still yet to sleep through the night and appears to be dropping his one and only nap; meaning he's super grumpy all the time.

Parenting is hard work at the best of time, but right now all I seem to do is work and then solo-parent. And it's the solo part that I'm struggling with. There's no time to share the load with Mum (and she'd say the same thing) , there's no time to focus on housework whilst the other parent handles the kids, there's not even any time to sit down as a family and enjoy an evening dinner.

Work. Parent. Work. Parent. It's absolutely exhausting and there doesn't appear to be any light at the end of the tunnel.

Update

Just wanted to say thank you for the kind messages. I vowed to have a good day yesterday and as much as the kids tried to stop that, I did end up having a pretty good time.

Parenting is hard, so I really value having a place to come talk about those issues in a safe space. Once again, thank you.

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[–] silver13@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

I guess the only hope here is: Time is on your side. As with everything regarding kids it will be different over time, it will change. It's also amazing that you are doing this at all, I don't think many people would be able to manage this amount of work and stress and responsibility. Is there anyone, family or friends, who might help out from time to time?