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Have you ever felt ostracized for being Dad? (self.dads)

submitted 9 months ago by Oneeightnine to c/dads

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One of the first things I noticed when we embarked on this great adventure was just how tailed to Mum everything seemed to be.

I get it, they're likely to be the ones doing the majority of the caregiving, but still, as a hands-on dad I couldn't help but feel a little...pushed out by things. Nothing massive for sure, but little things like how a good chunk of the online resources are written as if Mum is reading exclusively. Or how pretty much every baby group in my area is advertised as a Mum and Baby group. It's far from the end of the world, but it can be pretty intimidating and unwelcoming to a new Dad.

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[–] AshKetchup@lemmy.world 10 points 9 months ago

I do drop offs to preschool for my daughter. For the first few weeks it definitely felt like teachers were used to most Dad's being in and out for drop-offs/pick ups.

So when I'd ask how my kid's previous days went or upcoming activities those first few days they looked taken aback.

Play dates are mostly moms so figuring out how to socialize with other moms without being a wallflower was a challenge to me.